Im 19, I have been abandoned by everyone i have ever made friends with. I am a quiet girl who always gets on well with people but no one seems to care that im alive. Its like i dont exist to people and i just cant stand it any longer.
I have been in long term relationships since i was 15 and I am in love (for the first time) with my boyfriend. He is a socialite and has many friends, which is great but i cant help but feel theres something wrong with me. Why dont i have friends? I am a friendly girl who always manages to get boyfriends and get on well with people, but clearly not enough for someone to ring me and ask if i want to do something etc.
I am too embarrassed to reveal to my bf that i have NOONE incase he thinks im a freak or something, even though i think he already knows.
I cant stand the lonliness any longer, what do i do???

However difficult it may seem, sometimes you have to be the one to initiate contact with others. You say people never call you up, maybe you should try calling them. The worst that can happen is that they decline, and then there will still be plenty of people who appreciate your company.

With regards to your boyfriend, if he has any sense (which I suppose he does, since you've been together for some time), he will be supportive of you.

And by the way, if you need someone to kill some time with, feel free to send me a message.

It's always hard to reach and and meet people if you're a quiet or shy person (like myself), but I find that joining clubs/groups/activities is an easy way to meet people without putting yourself in an awkward introduction position. You seem like a great person, and you say you're friendly and get along well with people and your boyfriend, so you shouldn;t have any trouble making friends eventually :) Even things like sports, volunteering, work, and maybe meeting some of your boyfriend's friends should put you in the position to meet a bunch of great people!
As for your boyfriend, he obviously already thinks you're a great person, so he shouldn't look at you as a "freak", Maybe he could even introduce you to some people.

I'm sure you've not been abandoned. Your friends are probably trying to meet new people and that happens a lot at our age, what with getting long term jobs, colleges/universities and moving out. Chances are a lot of them may think you have abandoned them, that you have new close friends.

Facebook? Maybe try sending out some emails and asking how they are and what they're up to. A simple way of getting them to interact. Then suggest a catch up drink or meal.

Thinking about it, were these good friends? Did you enjoy their company and feel like they were on the same maturity level as you? I've had friends I've drifted from because I can't relate at the moment.

If you want a new friend to chat to please send me a message, I joined these forums as I was feeling lonely and it gets me down from time to time too.

I feel the same as you.

My bf has tuns of friends, I don't even have one. Sometimes I even get jealous when he's out with them.

Maybe you should go out with him and his friends? Go places, meet their gf's if not meet other people. Somewhere in life your meet friends.

Well at least you have your BF now, you may be able to rely on him to introduce you to new friends, just don't lean on him too heavily.

Very true, perhaps i should make more of an effort with people. I do email some people from time to time but nothing ever comes of it, they are all doing there own thing. I do meet his friends but he lives in london and i live up north so when i come back, its back to having no one again. Possibly just contacting the wrong people, i feel like im pestering them when i ask how they are etc :S

i'm the same way...

I'll tell you the same thing I tell everyone else on here: you talk ALL about the problem, what do you want as an outcome?

If you could take just one step toward your goal what would it be?

If you want more friends you need to get over your shyness, the first step to which knowing how to control your emotions. Basic psychology of humans is that you get more of what you focus on. If you keep focusing on the problem, your brain is ONLY going to be able to create more of the problem.

If you start looking at the solution, your brain is forced into brainstorming mode and has to start looking for anything that could be a potential solution.