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Old 07-21-19, 10:35 PM   #1
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When you try with your few strengths,
with a desperate hope that they might work out,
and build on self-confidence,
believing that you (too) could be good at something.

and fail, over and over again?
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Old 07-22-19, 09:13 AM   #2
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O.K,Vassily...then i answer to your posting=lack of willpower and determination...when we fight an inner conflict we often go to point zero==nothing works,everything seems useless,negative and disturbing..i've been there,listen==all of us on this forum have been there..I often ask myself about my OCD and i examine myself deeply and often come to the conclusion that a disturbance happens again and again...i like a challenge,a fight,even within myself...I know lots of peeps here feel insecure,anxious and angry...sometimes in my life i felt useless,worthless,prone to stress situations..i bet all of us go through periods in our life circle that we are full of doubt about ourself,others,the world..stress is a main factor for bodily and mental problems..how do we handle it?fight it?anger in a way can be difficult to control,especially if we bottle it up..that bubble will burts one fine day.i do like honesty..people who beat around the bush usually will pay a price for it later in life..perfection does not exist..that's why some of us feel useless..and turn themselves away from the world they are forced to live in..I did,by the way..and i am glad to say that leading a loners life..gave me insight..not only in myself,but also towards the world,other people..and in that aspect it reduced my stress factors..
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Old 07-23-19, 12:20 AM   #3
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If anything, It's not for the want of trying or determination
I have 27 years worth of failed attempts to show for my lack of self-esteem,

and unfortunately, try as I might, shutting myself in didn't work. There are too many success stories to be seen and heard in my daily life to highlight my failings and destroy any attempt at building self-esteem.

That is, How do you start believing in yourself when everything you try (for years) goes up in smoke? When you see (daily) everyone else making it 2x faster with a fraction of your effort? When they catch up to you and ask how you're doing? When the awkwardness, shame and guilt feel as though your insides are being rubbed with sandpaper?

I might as well be deaf and blind.

[I apologize if this sounds offensive]
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