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Old 06-10-13, 08:28 PM   #1
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Ive been a really happy guy my whole life, i mean im only 19, but ive never felt anything like this before. I feel like everything around me is slowly caving in and im gonna take the hit.
I just got a new manager at work about 2 months ago, since she started my work life has become increasingly bad. I had a bit of trouble getting to and from work due to my mum having to get a new car etc (I dont drive yet) and she took it very seriously and gave me a disciplinary so if i do it again i lose my job this is on my mind always ans she reminds me of it aswell taunts me almost. I dread going into work everyday. Im reluctant to get out of bed even if its my day off i like to be on my own, id love to say im good company but that'd be a lie. Also, one of my hobbies is very physically demanding but very rewarding (Martial Arts Tricking) and id started to progress really well but now ive just come to a holt and my performances are sloppy i just dont know how to cope with it all its weird i cant sleep any more and i used to have a huge appetite but now i hardly eat at all even if i feel hungry i just feel sick if i try to eat sometimes. My friends find excuses not to see me or always have better things to do. It really upsets me i used to bend over backwards for them and im treated like shit.
Im losing myself and i have no idea what to do, im so close to my breaking point, i can feel it.
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Old 06-10-13, 08:38 PM   #2
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Sorry to hear about your tough situation. A change in managers at work can often times create a difficult situation, especially if they see the world differently from you. I'm very impressed with your martial arts training. Don't really know that much about the martial arts, but wondering if there is anything in that training you can draw upon to help you navigate through these challenging waters?
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Old 06-10-13, 10:23 PM   #3
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Hi Speccyguy

It's easier to follow what they want. We must try as much as possible to avoid any message that they will think that 'this guy is against me'.

Sometimes people have 'I'm the boss' syndrome especially the new bosses in the company, or somebody who just newly appointed as a boss.

Go approach her nicely, tell her that you need to talk to her about your transport problem. They will listen, hence understand you better.

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Old 06-12-13, 09:02 AM   #4
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Wow I'm in the same position as you. I work 1hr 30 minutes away an the public transport isn't reliable some mornings so I get to work a few minutes late. I find it really hard to get up in the mornings and just can't jump out of bed like some. I don't think just a few literally 2 or 3 minutes late is particularly bad but I get shouted at for it. Most of the staff live around the corner in fancy apartments because they're on a better wage than me who had to live at my boyfriends parents. It's frustrating but honestly if it's a new manager they will be trying to find weak people who they can control, youn kids are perfect. They also need someone to shout at to make it look as though they're doing something when really they don't do much, if it gets too much go to the doctor and get counselling or medication to help you cope, if it gets really bad seek legal advice because the workplace has to resolve the issue.
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Old 06-13-13, 05:53 PM   #5
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i spoke to her about it and i got a second warning as i was 15 minutes late..
I cant cope with it anymore, but i cant quit my job unless i have another one to go to as my mum will kick me out plus i have no skills for any other work.

I just want to leave everything and everyone maybe then ill be a bit happier with no dependencies.
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Hi Speccy

Sorry, you've got that 2nd warning.

Tell your mum about this, that you've got 2nd warning and you'll lose your job if this continue. Maybe she can speed up the process of getting the new car.

For the time being, you can also use the public transport. If you're not familiar with it, take sometime after work to try to commute using the bus, the tram, get yourself familiar with it.
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The public transport around here cant get me to wwork on time and to get a bus that does i have to travel 13 miles :/ I got a final warning and theyre taking it further but ive done nothing, ive been at work for every shift since my 2nd one and even done extra hours. So im handing in my resignation i cant cope anymore.
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