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Old 05-16-16, 03:40 PM   #1
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Only last week I had to undergo surgery via general anaesthetic which all my friends knew about.
Well wishers seem to come from everywhere which seemed so nice to start off with but now a week post surgery I realised just how fickle these well wishing 'friends' were.
Not one, literally no one has either offered to help me with my recovery or even asked if I needed anything.
Baring in mind I'm a 30-something single gal with no family around.
I made my own way back home after surgery, straight away had to do my own shopping & take care of all the normal household chores. I was meant to rest! I wasn't meant to do any lifting or activities of any form for at least a week!
I have not seen a soul since the surgery.
As everyone around me knew of my surgery, I would have expected at least a couple to have come forward to offer their help but as they haven't, the stubborn person inside me wouldn't want their help if I have to ask for it..
It has made me feel soo incredibly alone, and as someone who has battled severe depression for nearly 2 decades, this is not a good place to be in right now.
I've been there for others, helped with household chores, shopping & even just dropping by with some flowers.
But when it's me.. well, no one seems to truly care!
In the next few weeks I should hopefully be back to doing all normal activities but how can I expect to go and see them for a catch up when they weren't there when I needed them the most?

I feel soooo utterly alone and am petrified this experience will lead me to fall back into that dark whole I tried so hard to climb out off..
What's it all worth when you have literally got no one to share your life with..?
It's always when you're down, that you realise who you can and sadly how many people you can not count on..

'Just a lonely soul trying to make a difference to someone's life'
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Old 05-16-16, 05:14 PM   #2
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Hi bluebell007,

I hope your surgery went well, sorry to hear that your so called friends did not offer a helping hand during your time of need. I know what it feels like it to be lonely and having to do everything by yourself.

I hope you are doing better now ? A lot of people on this site are lonely and it's always nice to have someone to talk to.

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Old 05-17-16, 08:45 PM   #3
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Thanks for taking the time to post a response.
Means a lot.
Loneliness can be such a dark place. And it's so tough to keep your head held high when you just sit there on your own.
I spend the entire Christmas week on my own & now this.
People just to busy with their partners & family to notice those who may have neither around.
I hope that we may get to a place some day where people stop to take a better look at those around them as suppose to this selfish 'me' culture we are finding ourselves in.
Even just a simple smile to a stranger or a call to a friend you haven't seen in a while can make someone's day.
I'm still in agony but hopefully after my recovery I can get myself back out there. Just taking it one day at a time.
I wish you well on your journey too!
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Old 05-18-16, 09:32 AM   #4
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Thank you, best to you.
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