Well...mine was an instant surprise. I didn't know anything was going on. He didn't tell us that his short-lived (3 month) marriage was going down the tubes because she was having an affair. The day he shot himself, she told him that she was leaving him. He was in another city at weekend Guard duty.
I had no clue about any of it until after he died. It goes back to that mantra that I keep hammering to people here about TELLING YOUR PARENTS what is going on even if it is embarrassing, uncomfortable, and so on.
I got a knock on my door (his dad) and that's how I found out. Sunday morning, Sept 11, 1994 at 6:17 am