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Old 05-02-11, 12:07 AM   #1
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Hey there,

I'm new to this thread. I joined this forum because I can't share my feelings with anybody like my family or friends because they just tell me I should see a professional and don't really know what else to say.

What's wrong with me? I don't quite know. I go through really torrid changes in my emotional state - from ecstatic to depressed - in a matter of minutes. Random things depress me, like whether I'll have friends when I'm thirty or what I'll do if I don't have plans for the weekend.

I feel this perpetual immense need to be around people and when I'm alone i can feel myself falling into this ball of dread. Once that feeling captures me, its like i'm carrying a lead ball in my stomach and I don't know what to do with it. And I have to work really hard to shake it off.

I feel like i worry about EVERYTHING - and literally anything , like missing a red light can make me start feeling terrible about myself. I use single small instances to draw conclusions on who I am as a person. I know its wrong, but I don't know how to stop...

Is this normal? Does anybody else feel this way?
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What's wrong with me? I don't quite know. I go through really torrid changes in my emotional state - from ecstatic to depressed - in a matter of minutes.


I feel like i worry about EVERYTHING - and literally anything , like missing a red light can make me start feeling terrible about myself. I use single small instances to draw conclusions on who I am as a person. I know its wrong, but I don't know how to stop...

Is this normal? Does anybody else feel this way?
I feel that way too... My mood changes from normal to depressed within seconds. One moment i am laughing, and the next i feel like crying.

I also use small instances to find reasons to tell myself that i am worthless and can never do anything right. Then i get more depressed.
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Sharing your feelings with friends and family can become difficult when they don't seem to understand but tell you that you should go and see a professional. I don't share my feelings with my friends or family coz they either don't understand, or tell me that i am making a big deal out of nothing. Depression is like that. It hurts you from the inside till you can't even seem to breath and people can't understand it.
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Hello and welcome I just joined these forums a few weeks ago and so far I have found it to be very helpful. There are a lot of people here who care and are willing to help out.

I came here for the same reason. I have major depression and when I get down, I can't go to family, because they just tell me its my fault and something is wrong with me. And I don't really have any friends I could go to that would really understand.

First off, I'm going to say this, there is nothing wrong with you! Don't feel anything is your fault, cause I'm sure its not. I experience some of this myself, so I can relate to what you are saying.

For me, I think it is anxiety. I get really worried about things that I shouldn't get so worried about and let things get to me, or take things to hard (grades in school for example), and I feel anxious sometimes and can't shake the feeling. I also suffer from a lot of depression, as mentioned above, and get really down a lot to the point of having suicidal thoughts. Does this sound similar to what you are experiencing?

I also know what it is like to feel alone. Being alone for too long can also cause me to become depressed. What helps me sometimes is a distraction. Finding something I like to do and getting my mind off things (music, movies, video games, ect.).

You may also be experience some symptoms of Bipolar Disorder, which is actually very common. I recently did a research paper on this for school and sudden changes in mood from being very happy and elevated, to very depressed and feeling despair are common symptoms of mania and depressive episodes.

I hope this helps you out. I know how hard it can be to be constantly worrying about things and to know you shouldn't be so worried about them, but not be able to control it. It's not a fun thing and can be very stressful.

If you need anyone to talk to, send me a pm. I hope you feel better
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Wow, thank you so much. This really makes me feel like I'm not alone.

I've always wondered if I could be mildly bi-polar. How do you find out if you're bipolar?

I don't know really what to do- my friends tell me, I'm just being dramatic and that really frustrates me , because its more than that. I am not trying to be just a drama queen!
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Wow, thank you so much. This really makes me feel like I'm not alone.

I've always wondered if I could be mildly bi-polar. How do you find out if you're bipolar?

I don't know really what to do- my friends tell me, I'm just being dramatic and that really frustrates me , because its more than that. I am not trying to be just a drama queen!

You're very welcome ;) Sorry for the late replay, I haven't been on these forums in a while due to being busy with some other stuff.

Best way to find out about being bipolar, I would say, is to see a therapist about it, as they are trained to spot the symptoms. It's a hard thing to diagnose, as some of the symptoms are very similar to other things, such as depression. It can also range in intensity quite a bit between the severe manic-depressive episodes of Bipolar I and the less intence episodes of hypomania in Bipolar II.

Or you can look some stuff up yourself on it. Web-MD is a good site (Bipolar Disorder Center: Symptoms, Types, Tests, and Treatments) and MayoClinic is another one I used for researching it recently (Bipolar Disorder Center: Symptoms, Types, Tests, and Treatments).

I was told I had Bipolar II, but, I'm pretty sure its a miss-diagnosis for me. I don't have mania what-so-ever. When I told another therapist that I felt this was a miss-diagnosis, they asked me if I ever at all feel more "happy" than usually or have any periods where I feel a more elevated mood. My replay was that I have honestly never had that, just depression. One important factor in diagnosing Bipolar II is that you MUST have had at least one episode of hypomania (a less severe form of mania, where you just feel generally a great deal happier than you do at most times). As I'm pretty sure I haven't, I highly doubt I have Bipolar at all. For me, it seems to just be major depression that was looked at as Bipolar, as the two can be similar.

Anxiety, on the other hand, can be other things besides Bipolar. Bipolar involves mood changes form depressed to overly-happy, but 90% of the time, they are not sudden and take place over a period of years. (A lot of people confuse Bipolar as just sudden mood shifts from day-to-day.) Anxiety disorder is what can cause intense above-average anxiety most of the time.

Yeah, I hate it when people say anything is "over-dramatic." Most of the time, this is a case of them simply not understanding, or not trying to understand, what you are feeling. Have you tried sitting down with you close friends (those you feel most comfortable confining in, I mean) and explaining to them that you are not trying to be dramatic, but you just feel overly-anxious at times and need to vent to them about it, in order to feel better? This may help them understand it better.
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