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Old 11-26-10, 01:51 PM   #1
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Anyone else coping with bi ploar and finds that its not problems within but societies misconceptions?

Would you ever tell a potential employer that you had it. I never have dont think i ever will . A nurse told me when i was hospitalized(only ever once) to "come out" Everyone close to me knows anyway because you cant just dissappear for a month without people questioning lol

I need my meds yes but apart from that i manage. i have fiance, job, studying at college, social life so who am i to complain. The ups and downs can be difficult but i know tomorrow can be different. The biological side is harder - the pains and headaches.

id really love to hear stories from other people. If i told mine from start it would turn into a book , maybe some other time

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Old 11-27-10, 02:33 PM   #2
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I would tell your employer. But I would encourage you to think carefully how you will say it. You want to let them know you have bipolar disorder, but also emphasize that you are taking medication and undergoing therapy to cope with it. That way you have told them about it, but have also reassured them that you are taking responsibility for your health and well-being.
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Old 11-27-10, 06:47 PM   #3
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It's really none of your employers business what illness you have. I'm pretty sure that legally their not allowed to ask about it either. You should probably work more with your meds too and tweek them some more if they aren't working properly. It takes time to find the right combination. Just don't stop taking them once you get better. People with clinical depression tend to do that and it just comes back. I have BPD too and every time I went manic I quit taking my meds. Not a a good idea. Now I'm just resigned to taking them. And there is nothing wrong with that. Just like a diabetic taking insulin or a person with high BP takes meds, we sometimes have to take our meds too. Anyway... my employers don't know what's wrong with me. They just know that I get sick from time to time. But since getting my meds straightened out and have been seeing my doctor and therapist regularly I've been a model employee. We can be productive people too dammit!

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Old 11-27-10, 09:46 PM   #4
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I am manic-depressive as well. I don't tell my employers. I only tell people that really 1. I think would be beneficial for me if they knew (relieve some confusion as to behaviour - even though the meds help its still not perfect nor do I expect it to be) 2. I trust them not to use it against me in some way - this is usually a gut feeling for me. 3. if I feel comfortable with the decision to tell. Usually I find employers don't fit in this category, no matter what way I phrase it, it is still unnecessary hassle for most employers. Although, now I am in a different field of work which is blurring lines for me as to my interests in telling and the possible fallback. So, I take it one step at a time and let my gut lead the way.
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Old 11-28-10, 05:20 AM   #5
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I do it exactly like the poster above me.
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Old 11-28-10, 12:37 PM   #6
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i have heard it being compared to diabetes as its a chemical imbalance too but in the brain instead. I hate to admit i need my meds but its not my fault at the end of day that i inherited the upset genes. Im not having therapy however , money is tight, and nhs are as useless as a chocolate firegaurd! i had to press at them to change my prescription and refused all that art therapy bull and rest of it. Being in real world keeps u sane.

I agree that only people you really really trust should know who wont use it against u. Nobody at college or work know about my bp, and it doesnt stand in my way anymore. stressing the anymore part.

I have my family call me a waste of space that wont amount to nothing and people telling my fiance to leave me its not worth and they dont even know who i am ! all theyve heard is i was in hospital . Things like that get to u....
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