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Old 02-21-14, 03:46 PM   #21
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Nothing recent. I know family, lack of a at least decent job, no personal space, lack of acceptance (I know this will never really happen), bills that keep piling up, among other things are all contributing factors that together can cause anxiety levels to rise.

Sometimes even getting the paycheck can produce feelings of anxiety or even depression because even before having the money in my hand, I know that I must divide it carefully in order to cover as much of the things that I need to pay as possible. This can become problematic since it can easily induce feelings of desperation. These can then be further enhanced by the desires to escape, to leave the house so as to not have to deal with family who despite all my efforts, are dead set in their mentalities.
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Old 02-21-14, 03:53 PM   #22
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While I am trying to set as much time as possible away from home and at the same time looking for any sort of outlet that can help me better deal with it, sometimes it only takes a second to fall into a state of anxiety. And i know the levels have been rising because I find myself feeling short of breath, uneasy, restless, just plain wanting to run away, questioning if Im ever going to get better, etc with increasing frequency.
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Old 02-23-14, 09:31 AM   #23
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When it comes to your parents' mentalities, I think radical acceptance is best. You can Google it. You can't control how other people feel, you can only control how you respond to how they feel. So I would try not to let it get to me.

As for the anxiety caused by stretching your checks, like I said in another thread, I read an article that said your happiness is your top priority. I don't understand this obligation to support others who you didn't bring into this world.
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Old 02-23-14, 12:22 PM   #24
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Its an ideal which I've unfortunately was first placed under and later came to believe out of a erroneous notion of love for a parent(s). But I am working on stopping myself from thinking this way.
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speaking of placed ideals, the perfectionism ideology under which I was raised is one of the factors that activates anxiety like the flip of a switch. Mainly because of the notion that there must never be done anything that is not perfect (I'm not sure if I made a thread about that once). When I make a mistake or do something that I don't normally do, it triggers a compulsive thinking pattern that causes anxiety.
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Old 02-25-14, 12:30 AM   #26
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I can relate. Doing things outside the societal norm triggers compulsive rumination, negative daydreaming, and anxiety for me. I have these mental movies with famous people like Malcolm X or whoever criticizing me for being different and trying to change me. I believe it stems from the past, where I was bullied for being different and the indoctrination worked, I conformed, but was still bullied later, which led me to realize that everyone gets disrespected so you should be true to yourself. I still fear being forced to change again.
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Old 02-25-14, 02:06 AM   #27
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Well, I'm now even more determined to kick this anxiety problem in the rear. I don't know why but halfway through a conversation with the net girl tonight, the damn thing came back. And I was enjoying the conversation and everything. I don't know why this is becoming so much more frequent but its really getting to the last of my nerves.
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Old 02-25-14, 09:33 AM   #28
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Looking into anxiety, I have come across a few lists of suggested things to do to combat anxiety. Some of the more common are:

1) Breathing control: a bit hard to do when in the middle of an episode but I guess that like meditation, its a way to keep a more stable position rather than desperately trying to avoid the anxiety which in turn just creates more of it.

2) Talking to someone friendly: suggested its better in person or at least over the phone. Kinda hard to do this one seeing as the closest people here contribute to the anxiety instead of helping.

3) Aerobic activity: no surprise there. One thing that I notice after I do excersize is the sense of relief from the body.

4) Sex: not entirely sure how this one works though I imagine that since it follows physical activity, it can help in relieving stress, at least that's what I hear sometimes when I happen to find myself among the men's sex talks. Still, not something I can get into so this one is off my list.

5) Finding what relaxes you: this one I find to be rather tricky, especially since anxiety makes enjoying anything rather impossible. I could pick up a book but be unable to read even a few pages, or try to draw and find myself not wanting to do it anymore rather quickly. I'm also a bit confused when it comes to music seeing as its suggested to not listen to anything that is angry or sad. But headbanging music is sort what I enjoy, especially if I can hear it loud, which is rare because everyone else says it bothers them. Anyone have any onsite on this one?

6) "Embracing" anxiety: this one left me rather stupid because it seems to follow the music one. It says to "let it all out" but doesn't doing things that are un-calmed contribute to raising it instead of lowering it?

7) Going outside: its suggested to avoid staying indoors alot. Guess I can give this a try.

Anyone got any extra tips?
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Are you opposed to anti-anxiety meds?
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Old 02-25-14, 11:42 AM   #30
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I've been considering it, though there is a bit of a privacy problem for me and I would have to see what secondary effects the meds would produce. If it something that can attract attention, like how depression meds are warned to actually increase suicidal thoughts, I would have a hard time taking them while avoiding anyone if the effects of the meds kicked in.
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