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Old 11-07-08, 08:27 AM   #11
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yea that too... I try to seperate a little and mingle but it's very hard to do when i'm sober
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Old 11-07-08, 12:22 PM   #12
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the only prob i find then is that i look like a lost puppy following close to one person.. then i get really conscious that i may be irritating that one person
Luckily for me the one person I stay with is almost as shy as me.
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Sometimes, I follow around one person at these sort of events, and I worry about annoying that person, too. Other times, I like to sit somewhere where I can see almost everyone and watch what is happening; I like watching people, so I find myself falling into this habit.
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I avoid social situations where I don't know other people too. I think that can be classified in the norm since so many ppl feel this way. I don't date or go to pubs in case I have to deal with the possibility of a man talking to me....That thing about what are other people thinking about you, well it crosses the mind of the rest of the human race. Perhaps some dwell on it more than others. I don't mind some situations but others I avoid at all costs because I don't want to be 'found out' or exposed as 'incompetent'. Its sad really...

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Old 11-12-08, 11:50 AM   #15
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yeah.. next time i speak to her and she invites me round ile tell her



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also it helps when if ya go to a community college where most everyone is too self absurbed in their laptops to phones /texting to pay any attention to anyone else

use anxitiry to your advantage, make it work for you, for example i reseach and read alot topics of interest and study with school..making it work for something that will benefit you, because while they out parting your advancing you education / skills and knownledge

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I recognizw these kind of feelings. For me the worse part is that my work involved networking which I hate. I have to go to these workshops where you find yourself in the middle of a bunch of people that you do not know and that you probably do not have a thing in common besides work. And I always have the feeling that I have to find something to discuss, but it does not always work. Sometimes I dare to say something and then I feel bad for the rest of the week because it was just so stupid ... I remember a workshop two years ago. I felt so bad with myself I wanted to go away as soon as possible. Sometimes I thought, perhaps this would become better with time... othertimes I am thinking I should really quit this job if it creates to me such anxiety and so negative feelings about myself.
So I understand how you feel, and at the end I am thinking, why should you expose yourself to negative feelings when you do not even have to..? I think your priority should be to feel comfortable and so to tell your friend about how you feel. I am sure that if she is your real friend, she is going to respect this ...
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I know what you mean and that thing about imagining other people in the room naked to help make you more comfortable doesn't work for me because as a redhead, my face goes like a tomato! so then I look even more conspicuous than I thought I did when I first walked in.....I just glow when I think of genitals!
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All of these posts sound like my brain when I am put in those situations.

Do they think I am weird? What do I say ? I have to say something. oh they definatly think I am weird now........ shit.......... now I am starting to sweat..........fck look at me I am a chain smoking idiot standing here by myself...........if I leave they will think I don't like them or their friends....what do I do?what do I do?
It is a constant battle them vs me in my brain, and I do this all day at work also because I am not good friends with any of the people I work with.
When I was younger I would get drunk and over compansate for it in most social situations. But I made a fool of myself enough times this way to chose to deal with it with it sober.
Kinda funny that I also persued musical ambitions that put me in the spotlight. But for some funny reason when the moment came to perform I would close my eyes and pretend I was sitting in my bedroom all by myself and let it all pour out. It was the only therapy that ever worked, and A profound and very special thing.Some of the best memories and feelings I have ever known where created on stage, a genuine high that worked for days at a time.(when things went well anyway lo)
I sure hope the OP takes some comfort in knowing we are all here battling these same anxiety issues.You are not alone friend
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what goes thru your head is about the same that goes thru my head.. except i dont smoke so they dont think im a chain smoking idiot ( not that ur an idiot)



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