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Old 01-06-15, 06:21 PM   #1
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Skipped a class this morning just bc I was anxious about going and feeling self conscious. It's like all eyes on me, or feeling that way. It's not like, okay, I woke up and decided that I didn't want to go - drove there, waited outside, couldn't get up the courage to go, so went back home.

Is there something to take to make this easier?

I've gotten used to going and doing different things, but these feelings always come back. It's not consistent. Hate not being reliable, and any friends I can make must think I'm a flake.

There are so many activities and choices that I know would be beneficial, but I end up either avoiding them or choosing the wrong things, seems almost like self hatred.

Try not to say, "should do this or that", but it's all the same. If I know it's positive or it involves people, sometimes I just want to crawl in a hole.

There is no affirmation, no encouragement, this is adulthood.
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Old 01-11-15, 07:11 AM   #2
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Maybe try to make punish-award system about those stuff. If i do this right i will award myself with this, if i dont i will punish myself with this. Just keep that thought about how its beneficial for you. You are strong, you can do it. I know you can. :) Just keep trying. Trying is whats important.

Stay strong.
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Old 01-12-15, 10:10 PM   #3
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Thanks for your reply :)

Will work on rewards more. Lately, everything has lost its luster... Anhedonia, I suppose.
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Old 01-23-15, 01:39 AM   #4
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Brink,



I know exactly how you feel, I've lost jobs because my anxiety and social awkwardness. I do the same things you do. I try to be outgoing and just end up hating myself. At this point, I'm not sure what to do, I recently got fired (again), I'm just trying to take it one day at a time and not get overwhelmed. I'm sorry I'm not really a good helper, just wanted you to know you're not alone. ::hugs::
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Old 03-04-15, 05:03 PM   #5
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Can relate to your trouble I felt the same way for a long time I realised eventually that alot of my fears were false I was always self conscious and worried what other people were thinking about me I had convinced myself that when I went into work or school that everyone was seeing what I was wearing or was somehow interested in what was with me. Eventuality realised most people are too caught in there own lives to give you to much thought . Hope you find a way good luck
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Old 06-19-15, 04:08 PM   #6
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this happned to me in college too :( what helped me was if i asked my friend to walk into class with me. or say we met beforehand for a coffee and we'd go intogether. i felt more confident when someone went with me. i dont know if that would help u, but hopefully if not you'll find some other way :) also i know this thread is really oudated, but in europe we read the date before the month :D hehe!
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