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Old 01-14-09, 02:25 PM   #1
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im kinda nervous about seeing one friend at the weekend... she's like my 2nd mum, and has always been really lovely to me.. i guess b4 she left she kinda sounded angry at me sometimes... i guess cus she cared so much.. but she would say stuff like only I can make myself better and i need to take responsibility to get better.. so get help, stop hurting myself, stop pushing ppl away etc.. so im scared that when i see her she will keep asking how im doing and if im still in therapy etc.. and when i say no im not in therapy and still hurting myself etc and still depressed etc she will get angry at me again. i dont wana go and talk about me all the time.. i wana know how she is and want to talk about normal things ppl talk about (whatever that is)
so im thinking i need to lie a bit this weekend.. i can say im out of therapy at the mo.. but i just need to pretend that im not hurting myself and im feeling a bit better. im so anxious about it all



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i don't think you should lie to her. she loves you and wants you to feel better. if she knows how much you are hurting, she will be more willing to do whatever it is she can do to help you and be there for you............ you owe yourself the truth. you deserve someone to love you and be worried and want to help so i think you should tell her everything. it may even make you feel better just to get everything out to her since you are and have been so close in the past... think about it okay?
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then you have to deferr to the judgement of people you trust.
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I don't know what the right thing to do is.

I have found myself in that situation before though. When there are people that care about me, and want to know how I am doing, but telling them would mean admitting that after all this time that I am still really struggling. And I worry about how they will react, and about how they might judge me for not doing more or doing things differently to improve my situation.

In those times, sometimes I choose to be honest, sometimes I choose to hold back- but its not so much about lying, as believing that even if I don't feel great at the moment, in time things will improve, and I don't need everyone to focus on me every second. I also find that being able to focus on other people, and how things are going for them often makes me feel better anyway. Sometimes being around people you like and admire and spending time with them can be really good, even if they aren't doing something specific to help you per se.

Ultimately, like marel said, you need to do what's best for you. I personally don't feel good when I specifically lie to them though (as opposed to just chosing not to talk about problems I'm having) and sometimes it causes problems further down the track, even if I did it at the time to avoid disapointing them. That's just my perspective though.
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Old 01-18-09, 07:04 AM   #8
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well it was ok in the end... she only asked about it once and that was near the end of the 2nd day. and then it wasnt a big focus so that was good.. i managed to change the conversation quickly enough.



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