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Old 12-05-17, 07:53 PM   #1
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There are only a few people I really feel comfortable talking to, and if I'm not with them I completely panic. The other day I talked to a boy that I know but don't talk to very often. There were only about six other people in the room, but after simply saying two words to him I felt completely overwhelmed and sick for the rest of the day.

I feel like people think I'm just rude because I never talk to anyone. People seem to look at me strangely at school and at basketball practice. Maybe I'm just imagining it, but there's one girl who I think might have been trying to talk to me but stopped because I seemed like I was refusing to acknowledge her. I don't know anymore.

All I really know is that there are only about four people that I can actually talk to without panicking, stuttering, or feeling overwhelmingly stressed. I'm probably too dependent on these few people, but I'm not sure what to do about it.
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Old 12-06-17, 07:38 PM   #2
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Its tough being that way. Introverted, shy, socially awkward - whatever you want to call it. I've been like that all my life and it really never goes away. Some phases of my life Ive been better, made more effort, had some freinds, other times I have been a total loner for years. Many other people feel like this, you are not alone - google social anxiety and you will find info and forums.
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I just find it hard because people don't get it. Not everyone is talkative and social. They get mad at me for not interacting, as I'm a bitch.
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Yeah, I often have people ask me if I want to join group activities, and when I politely say no they look at me weirdly. It's like they don't understand that some people get stressed in the presence of lots of other people. The only people who really get it are my friends, which is part of the reason I feel so comfortable with them.
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I will never understand people.
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Old 12-13-17, 03:53 PM   #6
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yeah ditto, been this way all my life, people think your acting like your special because you do not actively seek people out, and at this point i'm just used to it
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I totally understand.

As may be one of the solutions I could suggest, if there is someone trying to talk to you (like that girl) that you are kind of interested in, but not comfortable with, try imagining one of your 4 friends in the place of that person. Like you are talking to one of your friends not a stranger. See if that helps at all.. Or try to think of something that makes you happy but may be irrelevant, just to get the feeling...

I do that myself, when I am not relaxed with a new person, I distract myself with a happy thought (for example, I remind myself how my ex bf brought me flowers). It's completely irrelevant to the situation, but it gives me that chill feeling that takes of the tension with the new person.
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