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Old 01-23-15, 04:24 PM   #11
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If you ask me, your anxiety is masking your anger. I think, IMHO, that it's time to uproot the anger. Time to give up on the loner thing and rearrange certain things in your mind, the most obvious being letting go of the past.
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Which things (aside from those mentioned) would you suggest rearranging?
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I would consider rearranging:

-Perceiving everyone as the same and a herd of normals, with you being the only unique one

-The need for complete isolation

-The lack of love for family? (correct me if I'm wrong) vs. forgiveness/unconditional love/realizing that they would be way worse i.e. nsd's parents

-The perception of being smarter than most people

-Dwelling on the past

-The need to be a workaholic and perfect and push yourself to give 110%

-Maybe even the need to support the household, but that might be hard

That's what comes to mind at the moment.
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Old 01-23-15, 05:01 PM   #14
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I wouldn't perceived everyone as the same if everyone didn't actually act the same. If they acted differently, I wouldn't be so adverse to them but everyone just seems to want to be doing what everyone else does.

Not sure about family forgiveness. Mine doesn't practice it and trying to always push their ideals on you doesn't sound like unconditional love to me, it sounds more like brainwashing. I will agree that Dr D has it worse in physical and even psychological sense because not accepting while bad is not the same as openly rejecting. That being said if my parents were like his, a tragedy would have surfaced here already.

I don't think I'm smarter in an arrogant sense but when you try to talk to people and all you get are blank stares, that tells you something. And that in its own way is frustrating because even if (and when, though on rare occasions) I wanted to relate,the fact that they can't understand me and the same in reverse is enough to cause problems by the second.

The past is the present. I still hear/see/feel the same now as in the past so its like that saying "I try to get out but they keep pulling me back in" I hate people but I have given them fair shots from time to time and the result has been the same regardless.

That need to work is sort of part of my personality. It doesn't matter what, if I don't give it my all, I feel wrong about myself.
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Old 01-24-15, 11:29 AM   #15
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I'm not really sure if writing is going to help me anymore. It doesn't change the way I feel and I know that the common things others say work will not help me, I've tried. At times I feel like giving up already. I've been at it for years and still nothing has changed, nothing has progressed so how can I expect it will be any better 10,20,30 years from now?
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I wouldn't perceived everyone as the same if everyone didn't actually act the same. If they acted differently, I wouldn't be so adverse to them but everyone just seems to want to be doing what everyone else does.
Everyone is unique. Looking superficially at people makes them look same. We all are unique. There is no 2 same people in world.

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I don't think I'm smarter in an arrogant sense but when you try to talk to people and all you get are blank stares, that tells you something. And that in its own way is frustrating because even if (and when, though on rare occasions) I wanted to relate,the fact that they can't understand me and the same in reverse is enough to cause problems by the second.
I think you should try and meet someone who shares interests in heavy serious topics. Many people like talking about those rather then chit-chatting about nonsense. Maybe you could join some meet up site that you have there around where you live, to meet people to whom you could talk about stuffs you want to talk about. Many people like talking about "heavy" stuff, i think you could find some interest there.


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-The need to be a workaholic and perfect and push yourself to give 110%
This is a good quality, but i agree that he should take it easier. Some relax time, would do wonders i believe. Everyones brain needs some rest. If there was only a switch to shut it down for a bit.... But i would try to relax Crystal. Too much stress is dragging you down always. Deep slow breathing with relaxing music or sounds, could help out quite a bit, i think. Somethin like this maybe https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CySNhHVAokQ


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I'm not really sure if writing is going to help me anymore. It doesn't change the way I feel and I know that the common things others say work will not help me, I've tried. At times I feel like giving up already. I've been at it for years and still nothing has changed, nothing has progressed so how can I expect it will be any better 10,20,30 years from now?
Sometimes we dont feel changes that our actions make. Like writing. Its not instant relief, diary, talking in here, whatever is really helpful, but we barely notice it (usually). You have to keep trying to succeed. Not saying "i tried", but "i will keep trying". It sometimes take time for some idea to give results. And sticking to idea is crucial. Early giving up is bad. Its like saying "i want to shape up my body" then giving up after half of year coz person didnt see results that he/she expected. Trying is crucial.

Stay strong Crystal.
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^^How do you know everyone is unique?
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You said it yourself: "this has to STOP!" You need to get out of this mess.
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Old 01-24-15, 06:53 PM   #19
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Alright, how do I do it?
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Old 01-24-15, 07:09 PM   #20
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Like people. i know their, ignorance to not say the other word, wont change. How do i deal with them?
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