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Old 04-19-11, 05:23 AM   #1
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Hi, This is a last minute cry for help I suffer from anxiety and depression....to cut a long story short I've started a new job recently about a month into it and I have to join a meeting tomorrow with lawyers, paralegals, the department manager and the admin team (aka me).

The admin has to explain the case to the rest of the staff members...I'm already beside myself with nerves. And while I'm thinking of looking for more suitable work, this doesn't help me get through tomorrow.

Does anybody have tips on how to calm down, any natural medications, whatever that I could take. Any tips on how you yourself handle high pressured situations. I just need to get through the meeting, then on the long Easter break, I can try to start looking for something a little less stressful. When I get nervous my voice wobbles, my heart beats so fast and loud I can hardly hear myself. I don't want to to look like a total freak in front of everyone tomorrow.

If anyone can help me with advice I would be forever in your debt...anything besides looking for another job because I can't get one before tomorrow morning. I've tried 5htp, st john's wort, chill pill and kava (the pill form) but nothing has seemed to work.

Thanks in advance.
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Old 04-19-11, 05:43 AM   #2
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hi 3 days

what i would do - not that ive had to do this for a long time is just think to yourself -- (even if your not) well what the hell - the company obviously wanted me for this job - so ill do my best and it doesnt matter how I sound because im gonna leave anyway. so they can think what they like.

This should ease the pressure you are putting on yourself........((((hugs)))))
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Old 04-23-11, 06:27 AM   #3
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Hello brandsnap....thanks for reaching out to me in my time of need. I have to admit though that I ended up caving into my anxiety and on this occasion I let it win. I ended up ringing in sick....I was just too frickin' scared. I don't feel to bad about it....I realise as many times as I fight it, there will be occassions where I take a step back in my progress.

I woke up feeling so weak with my anxiety, so I ended up ringing in sick...on the bright side atleast I didn't ring in and quit my job.

One day I hope to live my life free from anxiety until then I'm still just surviving and making a lot of mistakes along the way.

Take care of yourself brandysnap and thanks for your advice.
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Old 04-23-11, 07:28 AM   #4
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3 Day, do you take any prescrition meds?? sounds like you could really benefit from seeing a professional who may be able to target your anxiety with medication. Try hard to realize the people you are dealing with may be just as nervous as you are, they may be better at hiding it.To be blunt, Do you know your shit???? If so Then show it!! Go in guns a blazin and make THEM nervous LOL. All will unfold as intended reguardless of your worry,so prep as best you can and go see a movie or feed the ducks at the park LOL "Born to be wild" is a great flick to keep the world in perspective Give it A try?? what have you got to lose??? sorry did't notice date on original post guess it's a little late how did you make out??
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Old 04-23-11, 10:27 PM   #5
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Hi, yeah folded on that one....any progress is taken in small steps and in that particular round I lost the battle but hopefully not the war. As in seeing the professionals (if you believe in such things) I have and I have declined the option of medication. It is a personal choice and all that.....and for me it was a definite no. I am more open to natural alternatives but see medication in any form be it pharmaceutical or natural as a temporary band aid that will cover or mask the symptoms but will of course have no overall impact on the problem itself.

I have discovered I am more anxious than depressive, but my bouts of depression always follow my anxiety....especially when I run from my fears. I'm just starting to learn more about myself and my condition. It's been 6 months since I found out that I suffer from anxiety and I did two months of seeing a psychologist and pouring my tortured soul out.....was it beneficial? No not really and again I really don't see too much point in it. I have found more comfort and practical helpful advice in reading books about my condition than seeing a lady that I never really meshed well with.

Anxiety is caused by a long ingrained habit of negative thinking this is what I believe. It can get so bad that you cannot control your physical reations when you start to panic and the intense feeling of fear can make life a living hell....but while I have no immediate answers to my problems I will not give up hope.

Saying this thanks for all of your advice and just for listening to me rant. Sometimes I just feel like being happy and find it kind of weird at this moment that I'm feeling rather happy and I'm writing about my depressive side. Believe it or not today I just want to smile and pig out on chocolate:)

Take care of yourself hopeful 1. Have a beautiful day:)
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And you as well , I find it strange the way our mind can glaze over the worst parts of our lives when we are feeling well , And fortunatly so or we would constantly relive our pain, great safety mechanism(the memory) I totally understand your stand on meds, I got to a point so far down and extended that taking meds or not taking meds turned into a non-choice, and "for me" it changed/saved my life.Still suffer severe downs but thet have become tolerable , although still tough. Chocolate is supposedly a natural feel good food(and aphrodesiac LOL) Glad you feel Better!!!
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hi, 3, i guess u don't need help for this time, but if u have to do it in the future, i have a suggestion: if possible, having handouts help. if u can make copies of an outline on paper for them, people will probably look at that instead of just watching u. and you can use the outline to look at while u talk, so you don't always have to be looking at them. if u use the outline as u speak, like "here on page 3 is a graph" kinda thing, u will be looking at it together. much easier, i think.
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Hi hopeful 1, um yeah I never really forget about the painful memories...on the good days I try to just live in the moment and dwell less. What's amazing is how much energy and time we use reliving painful memories, hurtful remarks or past mistakes but never give ourselves a pat on the back or take time to dwell on our past glories (when we were braver than we would ever of thought we could of been), past accomplishments or wonderful compliments recieved from others.

I've been told since I was little that I was beautiful...of course I don't believe this, never have because isn't that what nice people are suppose to say? yet I can remember over and over again the insults....A guy calling me a dog in high school, another guy telling me the only thing I had going for me was my smile other than that I was ugly and another guy who told me that no one would ever want me. I still get teary eyed when I think of these times, most of these were in high school and nearly 19 year years on (shit I'm old)...it still hurts and yeah I still believe it. Anyway where's that damn chocolate...only kidding I've already ate some chocolate:)

Hello Blue Girl, lovely to hear from you as always...thank you for always taking time to read my whinging. I'm thinking about joining an anxiety group in real life and see how other people cope in their day to day lives. Or if I manage to grow some courage I'm also thinking of joining a toastmasters course and facing the fear once and for all, but I'm not sure I will ever be that brave.

I'm getting a little bit better at my work but I still aint really making any friends and the young guy at work is making my life a misery. I don't want to give him the power but everyone wants to feel as though they belong. Everytime I try to make a conversation, he always answers in a yes or no. I wouldn't really care but I'm part of his team and you have to be able to communicate to ensure the work is done and he seems to be doing his best to make sure I feel as though I don't belong. I hate that I'm 14 years older and I'm letting this little idiot get to me (I had other words on the tip of my tongue more accurately descriptive but I chose the higher road).

I'm worried because of my anxiety and depression that I've forgotton how to fit into the work environment, to its social scene....well the social element. I know you can't make someone like you. I mean I say good morning and I'm lucky to get a hi, he just walks out and says good bye to everyone but me....it feels so awkward around now...I hate it. What little confidence I have is dwindling and I know it's because I don't believe in myself and am placing my value on how other people see me. It's just hard being the one that never fits in.
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