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Old 10-01-11, 03:08 AM   #11
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I'm still trying to understand what all of this means for me and what kind of impact it's going to have on my life from now on, but I guess that will come over time.
I think the more objective and realistic you can make the assessment the better. Applying negativity unreasonably from the impact(s) can just send you back as well as applying too high positive expectations, that will ultimately lead to failure and a negative outcome, will also.

Also, it seems like you're implying that you don't have a positive outlook on solving your issues (you added 'from now on')? Is there a hidden reason for that, such as a negative prediction and/or feeling of incapability? Do you think there could be a relationship to not doing the papers? I was just thinking what if you did feel incapable of doing them (or say doing them well) and your anxiety is freaking because you aren't, maybe there's too much focus on the anxiety to see that depression's the more underlying real issue, just a thought from a different angle.

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[...] but so far it seems like I can only get to a certain point, and then the explanations stop making sense. I know from experience that these things take time, though, so that's ok for now.
I just remember that the explanations made sense at one time and under certain circumstances from whence they were formed. It does take time to follow back and also cases of being able to accept what was thought.

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I think you might be on to something with your analysis of "should". I definitely have a very rigid model of "how I am supposed to be", which is not even conscious most of the time, and it's typical for me to spend a lot of time beating myself up for not matching up to it. In fact, when I first read your post, I thought "Well of *course* I want to fit a static image! Doesn't everybody?" And then I realized that maybe it's not the most constructive way of living in a world which is basically defined by change. :D
Now that I think about it, I'm wondering if striving for an image doesn't necessarily have to be unrealistic, so long as the resulting self comparison of the actual result to it is responded to reasonably. It sort of like shooting for an image for where someone wants to be in their life and not putting themselves down if they fail to meet that image (I guess it would have to be a more general image though).
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