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Old 04-28-11, 07:42 PM   #11
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I can't tell the difference between this and social anxiety. I have a social anxiety type personality, and I'm finding it really difficult to cope with depression on top of that. I'm so alone and all the strategies for getting better involve "reaching out and connecting" and talking about your problems. Is it possible for them to think of a different strategy to suit people like us?
Lately I've just been working and having to be around the same people for 11 hours a day. I find that just being around people enough can make it easier for me to be more friendly towards strangers. At least that's whats been working for me. A guy I work with has to take pills to deal with his anxiety, so clearly we're all different.
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I can't tell the difference between this and social anxiety. I have a social anxiety type personality, and I'm finding it really difficult to cope with depression on top of that. I'm so alone and all the strategies for getting better involve "reaching out and connecting" and talking about your problems. Is it possible for them to think of a different strategy to suit people like us?
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Old 05-23-11, 10:37 PM   #13
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been there,doing that. I stumbled upon this diagnosis accdiently years ago,it was just too painful to own then and dimissed it even though I knew it was true. sucks. With all the kudos to the poster who tamed the demons with cognitive therapy, that is some triumph there! I could not. It is all I can do to just own it for me.
but that I can quiet the shame of it all, is all that matters. More normal personalities are just as much wrapped in themselves to care for long. Took some of the sting out of it.
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Old 06-18-11, 02:41 PM   #14
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is shyness and social anxiety disorder the same thing ? , or is shyness a more mild problem
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Old 06-27-11, 08:29 PM   #15
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This is me as well. In my past relationships I've always held back feelings and not really show it for fear of getting hurt. And I would seem cool and indifferent when inside I'm just freaking out but at the same time wanting to join in with other people. It's mad and draining and I'm sick of it. I wish I had enough courage to change this.
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Old 09-19-11, 07:41 AM   #16
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I feel the same way. I suck at talking to people and terrible in social situations.
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Old 11-27-11, 08:20 PM   #17
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Oh my God. Those symptoms you listed completelely match my life! I didn't know about Avoidant Personality Disorder till now. But I agree, it's enough to have the diagnosis, but doing something about and feeling better is something else altogether. You can't just snap out of it - and it's hard to make people understand. But it's good to know that your not alone. Hang in there
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Old 12-03-11, 11:04 PM   #18
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Hello All

I would like to share my experience with Avoidant personality and hopefully get some advice/comments from people on here

Up until a year ago my avoidant personality would cause me a fair bit of discomfort, anxiety and unpleasantness as I used to think about future situation which I wanted to avoid and start worrying about them far in advance.

I then started to take 20 mg lexapro tablets and after a year things have somewhat improved. I am still avoidant in many ways, but it's my response to it that has changed since I no longer care, stress or get anxious about it and let things go by.

I am still highly unemotional except towards cats and dogs which I love dearly, but I really don't care much about people

I feel that most people put up an act most of the time; they are slaves of social norms and expectations

Some examples of that:
-people staying in loveless marriages
-putting up with unpleasant members of their family rather than cut off all relations
-meet so called friends/acquaintances for coffee even though you despise them because you are unable to put an end to that friendship

I don't put up with things that I don't like for the most part. I might not have the most exciting social life but at least I am at peace with myself most of the time and stress free.

I travel a lot around the world, I have a secure job, a couple of friends I see on the odd occasion for lunch, my family lives in another country on the other side of the world (thank goodness!) I do have some relatives here in the city where I live and although I don't see them much I would very much prefer if I didn't have any.

What do you think?
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Old 12-22-11, 07:13 PM   #20
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there is a difference between social anxiety and avoidant personality disorder, and being shy doesnt necessarily mean you have either.

with social anxiety the person tends to avoid SOCIAL contacts/situations, especially those that unleash high anxiety and panic attacks, but may want to have those contacts

with avoidant personality disorder the person tends to avoid facing ANY situation or problem that generate fear, they tend not to under go anxiety attacks due to their avoidance of anxiety generating situations.

If your concerned about either then see a doctor, get a proper diagnosis and start a treatment plan
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