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Old 11-11-13, 09:55 AM   #1
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It's got to the point where my girlfriend of a year, travelled up north to go out clubbing with a friend. And i was a nervous wreck for the week leading up to it. I couldn't sleep, i couldn't eat.
I just kept running situations over my head;
Was she going to find someone better than me?
Was she gonna get drunk and cheat on me?
Is she going to get home okay?
Is she going to tell her friend how much of a drain i am?

I know it's not healthy, and i do trust her to the end of the earth. But these thoughts still come into my head and won't go away. I need to figure it out. I can't go on like this.
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Old 11-18-13, 07:54 AM   #2
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any help at all?
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Old 11-21-13, 03:45 PM   #3
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please.
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Old 11-21-13, 03:56 PM   #4
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I'm sorry I'm not very good at advise, I just wanted you to know I've read your thread.
Have you tried talking to your girl friend and let her know how you feel?
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Scars everyone has thoughts like this in a relationship. But you have to think rationally: has your girlfriend ever cheated on you before? You guys have been together for a year right? Do you think she would be willing to throw a year relationship away for a one night stand? I think you need to stop ruminating on these thoughts- try playing a game, watching tv or reading a good book?
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I'm sorry I'm not very good at advise, I just wanted you to know I've read your thread.
Have you tried talking to your girl friend and let her know how you feel?
I've tried and she was okay about it, but i can tell it annoys her - and rightly so, it's not exactly normal.

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Scars everyone has thoughts like this in a relationship. But you have to think rationally: has your girlfriend ever cheated on you before? You guys have been together for a year right? Do you think she would be willing to throw a year relationship away for a one night stand? I think you need to stop ruminating on these thoughts- try playing a game, watching tv or reading a good book?
But to the extent that it takes hold a week before hand? And you can't do anything because even moving makes you feel sick. I don't want to go through it again, it was quite possibly the worst week of my life. And what makes it worse is that it's going to happen again, and again.
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Old 12-16-13, 08:31 AM   #7
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i really need to sort this, it's only getting worse - please anyone?
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Hi Scars. I'm new here and I understand what you're going through. I did the same thing with my ex and well now he's my ex... I have a fear of abandonment too. Keep yourself very busy when these thoughts plague you. It doesn't do any good to be clingy it will only cause a gap between you. Go out with friends or family or start a project. Anything to put your fears aside for awhile until you're exhausted. It's hard not to let the fear of losing her take control. It's even harder to recover from a breakup.
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