Ok, I need major help with my 8 year old son.
He has major anxiety issues. MAJOR.
His mother and I seperated in 09 due to his mothers infidelity issues created by Bi-Polar infidelity.
It is clear he has issues with my now, new partner, albeit when he is with her by himself he gets along with her very very well.
He sort of has a Jekyll and Hyde personality.
Rarely do I get to see him act like a normal 8 year old child should.
He cannot wait to hang with his mates when he gets here, although he spends a short time with his friends and then he comes home. His friends think the world of him as he is quite talented with a lot of things he partakes in. Therefore this friends think he's pretty cool.
His friends come to the front door and say "XXXX come out and play"
He will yell out, "No, I don't want to play, im bored with you guys"
20 minutes later you can see his mind ticking over and he wants to go hang with them. So off he goes but 30 minutes later he's home again saying "They're boring"
He treats most people in my life with disrespect. Does not say "Hello" when people say "hello" to him. Does not want to interact with close friends and family.
He is creating a wedge between my new partner and me.
He has a sister and does not like doing things with me and his sister, he just wants me to himself. And if his sister gets involved he immediately withdraws from the situation.
IN saying all of this, when he wakes in the morning he climbs into bed with me and wants that closeness but as soon as I don't give him the attention he craves, he takes off in a huff.
PLEASE HELP, can someone shed some light on the situation, please offer some advice.
It is tearing me apart from the inside.
He did see a psychologist about a year ago for a period of six months. At his mothers direction as she has partaken in parental alienation for quite some time and this obviously has had major effect on him.