Welcome to TTL. I hope you like it here.
I understand that it can be frustrating to wait for replies to your threads. It may help to be active on the forum and reply to other members. Then they might be more likely to search for your posts and reply to you as well.
You need to be a member for a while and have a certain number of posts to be able to access chat. We have the limitation in place to prevent guideline violations in chat, such as spammers or members seeking depression support: No support in chat or pm
I would rather not say the exact numbers you need to access chat, as it could be abused by trolls and spammers, but I can tell you that it will not be long until you can access it. If you want to chat about light-hearted topics with other members, you can also post a new thread in the Banter
I hope you will continue to find support here on TTL, and that you will enjoy chat when you can access it. Please do not hesitate to contact us if you have any further questions.