Realizing that it is only the disappointment of my own expectations not being met that hurts often times, not that others did not do what I hoped they would to be supportive of me. If I don't hold expectations that other people will cherish me or treat me in a caring manner, then I won't be disappointed or sad. Society insinuates that people should care, that family should be loving and that friends should be extra special. But, this isn't always true for many people. Expectations are not directly comforting like a teddy bear or a chocolate bar might be, but it provides a way out of pain caused by expectations going unrewarded.
We have to become creative problem solvers, not just tolerant burden barers.