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This is a discussion on repeating to myself.. within the Alternative Treatment forums, part of the Treatment category; so lately ive been trying to feel ok and fine, maybe even happy :/ ive been constantly thinking to myself ...

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Old 09-01-11, 03:46 AM   #1
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so lately ive been trying to feel ok and fine, maybe even happy :/
ive been constantly thinking to myself in my head and repeating im ok..im fine..everythings ok..im fine..etc i usually do it in the morning to kind of hype myself up for the day ahead.
im not too sure whether its helping, sometimes it does and keeps me calm other times it doesnt. i just wondered if anyone else does similar things like this, as i feel kind of weird keep thinking it in my head lol..x
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I think that positive reinforcement of oneself is a very good thing. I've also been told as much by a psychotherapist in the past. We often can't work out all of our troubles on our own but we can help ourselves to get through things by applying rational/logical thinking and a bit of positivity.

I don't like flying. I used to absolutely love it but anxiety stripped me of that. However, I still take holidays abroad. I refuse to let my fear deprive me of that. So, whenever I'm on a plane I am constantly reassuring myself and applying rational thoughts to combat the irrational ones. I accept the lack of control in my situation by taking control of the things that ARE withing my control. I can't control the outcome of a flight but I can control how I react. If you let irrational thoughts go untethered then they can really run away with you.

In summary, I think that what you are doing is a very valuable thing and will likely have more benefits than is immediately apparent.
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i like your example, yes i guess it is a positive thing and not too strange at all lol..afterall we all think things in our heads and for me i think far too much. so repeating this kind of thing to myself does sometimes make me feel ok. but on the other hand it makes me think why do i have to kind of repeat to myself everything is ok and im fine, i want to get to the point where i dont even have to tell myself i am. id love to just wake up and actually be fine if you understand me..x
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I do it as well, it kind of soots me down..guess the repetition and rhythm helps me and I grasp at it like a drowning man :). Or I sing, same song over and over :).
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ive noticed i sing little jingles to myself over and over again sometimes, they just pop into my head and its kind of distracting from my thoughts i guess. i still try with the repeating im ok and fine etc, sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt still but its worth doing..x
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Thinking positive thoughts and talking to yourself in a positive way is always good. The way you feel is based almost entirely on the way you think about things. I have done this too but have had some problems with it in the past. It only works if you really believe what you are telling yourself. I have suffered low self esteem for years and in particular never liked the way that I looked. I remember looking in the mirror and saying out loud, 'I am an attractive person'. But......although I was saying the words I still felt like I was lying to myself which just made me feel worse. What I later found more beneficial was to give myself concrete examples as to why I was an attractive person. So for example I might focus on features that others have commented on in the past. Or if a girl smiled at me or flirted with me I could link what I was saying to something that backed it up.

So when you tell yourself that things are ok you could maybe give yourself some reasons to back it up. Something simple like the weather is good or you had a nice breakfast or even that nothing has gone wrong so far that day. Write down any and every positive experience and then re-use them when you talk to yourself.

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I do it too. I have at times taped little sticky notes with positive sentences about me in places my gaze falls often, like on door frames just at eye level, where I go in and out frequently. They said things like I will have a good day today, I am proud of myself, I am good at cooking eggs, I am a hard worker, etc. I did it because I listened to my thoughts one day and realized that I was mostly saying negative stuff to myself. I was critical and unsupportive about pretty much everything about myself. I resolved to change. The notes were helpful because it was a consistent positive input from an outside source.

I talk to myself out loud in a positive way sometimes too, to psyche myself up for stuff and to handle stress. Hearing the voice is not the same as thinking it. I find it affects my mind differently, even if I am the voice.
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Old 09-23-11, 09:16 PM   #8
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My GP actually told me to do this, especially to help me give up smoking. Saying things like "I am a non smoker" and such, and when I was going through my depression my Pdoc told me to say similar things like the ones you have mentioned.

It did help me a lot :)
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