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This is a discussion on masturbation within the Alternative Treatment forums, part of the Treatment category; Originally Posted by CaveFish For me 'sex' is what I did with my rapists and molesters. Affection, love, gentle tender ...

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Old 04-23-09, 05:01 PM   #21
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For me 'sex' is what I did with my rapists and molesters. Affection, love, gentle tender loving care, cuddling is what I do with my wife. But anything involving penetration is re-enacting my sexual abuse memories. Hence masochistic. Hope that makes more sense.

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Same here! Sex is something we know as an obligation, it's used to appease a lust...affection is...love, it's intimacy. (the albino rat has just made it to the top of my dresser drawer *facepalm*) And exactly what Cavefish said for us those re-enacting etc. to us is masochistic, but it's not unheard of =)...I've gotta get this rat he's eating the icing again *grumbles*...ooo no scratch that he is now in the lower drawer to the top in a pile of clean socks.
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i'm sorry. I guess my post is implying that those feelings are a choice. That isn't how I meant it to sound and I should have put more thought into it before just putting it out there. I guess what I'm trying to put across is balance. I get the impression sometimes that we allow our sexual behaviour to manifest - even though it is often due to experiences and do nothing about it because society has a broad tolerance of how we can feel or operate in this area under the auspice of 'healthy'.

This is not the case of how society would have us operate anywhere else and I think that is a discrepancy. Literature and media promotes it as a norm even.

I am making an observation and I wasn't judging others.
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You didn't offend me, Delta. I know having masturbation feel masochistic with a history of sexual abuse isn't exactly screaming 'healthy' but that is just where I am now. Maybe someday. Time is usually on healing's side.

I understand you were making an observation. I was also just explaining where I am coming from. smile.
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i'm sorry. I guess my post is implying that those feelings are a choice. That isn't how I meant it to sound and I should have put more thought into it before just putting it out there. I guess what I'm trying to put across is balance. I get the impression sometimes that we allow our sexual behaviour to manifest - even though it is often due to experiences and do nothing about it because society has a broad tolerance of how we can feel or operate in this area under the auspice of 'healthy'.

This is not the case of how society would have us operate anywhere else and I think that is a discrepancy. Literature and media promotes it as a norm even.

I am making an observation and I wasn't judging others.
Oooo I didn't understand your post but I was never offended either. Just hungry :-D! I agree! Society has made sex into this thing that people have to do, it's all about when you lose your virginity, all about how much sex you have, or don't have and with who, etc. and just I can't word it as good as you worded it but I understand what you're saying now and I certainly agree with you! :-)
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thanks for the replies. so do any of you watch or look at porn while you do it?
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Sometimes when I'm being masochistic I will look at porn or read stories revolving. But you know I haven't done that in a while. I've grown a bit lighter and that's not falling well for some people who are used to me as angry, dark, and bitter. (LoL). Who woulda thought there were people out there that actually admired my State of Darkness. I'm not usually so angry these days and when I am I'm contemplating death more than I am masochism. But it does happen sometimes, it just hasn't been this way for a little while now.
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thanks for the replies. so do any of you watch or look at porn while you do it?
no. i replay my rape/molestation memories in my head.
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