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Old 07-27-11, 09:11 AM   #1
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Hi, all. Not sure if this is the right board for this kind of post. If it's not then please could a mod move it to the right one. Thank you


I thought it would be a good idea to write down some of my problems and the ways that I've learnt to deal with them.

Originally this was going to be something I'd do privately, just for myself. That way if I ever started to feel really depressed again I would have a guide to help me through the hard times.


But I decided to post it here instead in the hope that some of you might want to add your own thoughts and observations. Hopefully this thread will allow us to help one another get better


So, what problems have you identified and how have you learnt to deal with them?


Paranoia


Symptoms - Feeling like people are laughing at me, talking about me, criticising me. Accompanied by a general feeling of worthlessness and the desire to shut myself away.

Known causes - Tiredness.

Treatment - Remind myself that I'm just being paranoid. It sounds obvious but it's very easy to forget this and become convinced that people really are talking about me behind my back.


Angry/Violent Fantasies

Symptoms - Imagining confrontations with strangers, work colleagues, family members/Reliving past confrontations but imagining myself becoming more aggressive towards others.

Usually presents as me imagining getting into an argument with someone. The fantasy becomes so vivid that I feel tense and angry even after the fantasy has ended.

Known causes - Tiredness (they often present early in the morning) and stress.

It was suggested to me that my social anxiety could be brought on by a faulty "fight or flight" response. If this is true then perhaps these fantasies are related. My brain might perceive some kind of threat that doesn't really exist. As a result I'm unable to resolve this threat. Perhaps my mind creates these fantasies as a way of making the threat real so that it can be resolved.

Treatment - Keep reminding myself that these fantasies are harmful to my state of mind.


Involuntary Twitches

Symptoms - The involuntary twitching/flexing of the muscles in my neck and face. As the condition worsens it can develop into my entire head suddenly turning to the side or even muttering expletives.

Known causes
- Thinking about past regrets and thinking about things I might say or do in the future that I'll regret.

Treatment
- Medication (SSRIs)


Panic Attacks


Symptoms - Shortness of breath, sweating, tight chest, nausea, feeling faint.

Known causes
- Being in confined spaces (buses, trains, etc.), standing in queues, staying in one public place for too long.

Treatment
-Medication (SSRIs)



There are also the more general feelings of depression: hopelessness, despair, loneliness, isolation, worthlessness, etc.. With these I've found the only way to deal with them is to not think about them. I just try to put them to the back of my mind.

Medication has helped with a lot of my problems but I realise that it is not a permanent solution. Ideally, I'd like to be able to deal with all of my problems without meds but that's not something I want to rush in to.



By "Treatment" I'm referring to that which has helped me feel better. These "treatments" may not necessarily work for everyone. I am not a doctor or therapist, I have no training in either field. Anyone in crisis should seek the help of trained professionals.

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i think this is a good idea :)
those who may have similar problems can see how you have dealt with it and try it out for themselves, giving a list of symptoms will also help in case any one is unsure about anything
great idea
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Other people do not determine the way I feel. I am responsible for my own emotions.


I have found this to be useful. It seems to help calm me down.
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yea, my boyfriend uses thing similar when his anxiety starts up
hope all is well with you
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I was hoping there might be a few more responses by now. Perhaps I posted this on the wrong board.

If a mod/admin is reading this would it be possible to move this thread to the Alternative Treatment board?

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Angry/Violent fantasies are often best countered for me by thinking of the possible consequences or the consequences I have experienced with my being angry in the past. Also, I had a violent and angry father when I was a child. He ruined his adult relationship with his sons for that reason. He has changed, but they will not associate with him now because of who he used to be. To them, that is who he still is. I understand especially through this that the consequences to my actions can be very serious. I try to realize that it is okay to feel angry and get it out, but it must be done in a safe non-harmful way or it comes back to hurt me the most.


People often do not see posts that are more then a month or so old, at best. Depression forum has so many postings that it is rare people look at posts when they get pushed past the front page of the depression sub-forum. If you want more responses, you may have to refresh it to the top periodically.
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There are also the more general feelings of depression: hopelessness, despair, loneliness, isolation, worthlessness, etc.. With these I've found the only way to deal with them is to not think about them. I just try to put them to the back of my mind.


I really struggle with putting anything I don't want to the back of my mind. Any suggestions on how to do this?
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I really struggle with putting anything I don't want to the back of my mind. Any suggestions on how to do this?
Medication and practise work for me.
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how did you find the courage to talk to a doctor or whatever about what you are going through?
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I felt that I couldn't go on living with the way I was feeling. At the time I thought suicide was my only option. Once I realised that I couldn't kill myself I felt that I had only one option left; I had to see a doctor.

I went to my GP and he could see how distraught I was. He set me up with an appointment with a mental health specialist and offered me some sedatives if I felt I needed them.

It took about three weeks (from seeing my GP) to seeing the specialist and getting prescribed some medication.

Just talking to a doctor was a massive help. It took a lot of weight off my shoulders.
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