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Old 07-17-12, 05:32 PM   #41
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Should I just write some of them down finally in the book and just not think about it?
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Old 07-17-12, 05:52 PM   #42
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That's a good idea - try it.

I can understand that it can get exhausting to have to keep identifying negative thoughts and acting on them. Hopefully it will get easier as you go - the idea is that is should become a habit.

Do you want something to read for tomorrow, or just wait to absorb what you've gotten so far and keep practicing it?
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I also think you're so tired because your body doesn't have the nutrition it needs. That will also make you irritable and ruin your concentration, making it harder to do things. I really want you to find some help for that, 20. Sooner rather than later. It won't go away by itself and it's so dangerous to so many of your bodily functions - probably all of them
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Old 07-17-12, 06:45 PM   #44
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I meant that it's exhausting trying to ignore everything and just keep acting like nothing is wrong, but I guess it would be exhausting to identify everything as well, maybe more so.

I would like something to read for tomorrow if you think it will help.

And before I write anything down (because I'm just really particular), do you think I should just write short term goals?

And sorry. I know it's a problem. But I just don't know what to do. I feel overwhelmed to think about stopping every bad problem at once. Do you think it's good if I only focus on these small goals at getting better and not focus on the bad habits for now?
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Old 07-17-12, 06:59 PM   #45
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I'm going to help you decide, okay? Use "If / Then" statements:

1. If I write the long range goals, then it could overwhelm me and I might think about stopping every bad problem at once.

2. If I write the short range goals, then I can only focus on the small goals at getting better and not focus on the bad habits.

All I did was take what you said and make If / Then statements. It's a way to help you decide. There is no wrong answer on which you choose - pick the one that seems best to you.


You can also decide when to write your goals - before they happen, or after?

If you write them before you do them, .........?

If you write them after they're done, ............?
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If I write them before I get them done, then I'm scared that I'll see a bunch of unfinished goals and feel awful.

If I write them after I complete them, then I might not focus on them as much and won't get as much done.

I'm scared to write them down before because I have no faith or confidence that I can do them. But I know if I write them down, I'll work harder to check them off...why is this so hard to choose? I feel so dumb and weak.

Idk, I'm having some problems stopping and thinking. My brain needs to slow down, but I can't stop it. I'm feeling trapped and I'm scared that no matter what, I'll never see it as good enough.
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I thought you should read this article so you can be aware of the different types of negative thinking. Look at it, and if you think it isn't a good idea to read, I'll change it. I'm not sure about it. But I thought I'd let you decide. My only hesitation is that it's filled with negativity. But I think it will be good for you to realize the way you tend to think. You will be able to tell yourself, "Oh - I think x - that's catastrophizing and it's a distortion". Might be very helpful.
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I glanced over the bold titles and it looks helpful and a good thing to read next. I'll save it for tomorrow though. I know it sounds stupid that I can't spend another 10 minutes and read it now, but I guess I'm sort of panicking with some things, and need to calm down.

I'm annoyed because I tried to do good things today. I went to work at 7am. I came back, felt so exhausted and tired, and I still worked out, even though it wasn't a full work out. I didn't eat much. I started to feel bad, so I tried to ignore everything and I started to draw something on some big drawing paper with pastels. I wanted to do this over a month ago, but didn't feel motivated to do it. But I still feel bad. I can't ignore it 24/7. I'm frustrated with myself.

It's like...I did stuff today. I know I won't feel awesome, but I shouldn't feel this bad. I guess I'm scared that I'll feel bad no matter what happens...
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If I write them before I get them done, then I'm scared that I'll see a bunch of unfinished goals and feel awful.

If I write them after I complete them, then I might not focus on them as much and won't get as much done.

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I'm scared to write them down before because I have no faith or confidence that I can do them.

But I know if I write them down, I'll work harder to check them off.
It's okay. Can you see any positives to any of the above choices? I do. Even in the negative statements, maybe one is more positive than the other?
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Old 07-17-12, 07:26 PM   #50
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I know the better choice is to write them down before. But it's also the riskier choice. I don't like going into something without having a 'worst case scenario' plan. Maybe that's a bad way of thinking?

I'm just scared because I'm not used to feeling good and not so depressed. I have worked to not be and it's never paid off, so it's like, why is this any different? I'm used to failing and I feel like no matter what, my brain will at least subconsciously assume I'll fail.
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