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Old 10-10-09, 05:16 PM   #1
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that's got to be the hardest thing.
I use to think my family was the most important thing now I just want to get the hell away from them.
IT's almost as if I don't shutup and bow to his fakeass i'm some horrible person who can't do anything right
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Well , you should try just being quiet for a bit i think , just listen to everything your family has to say , And if you do want to say your opinion do it , but dont do it in a rude way ,you dont want to irrate them that way too. I know you will get over this and there will be a time soon where your family will listen to eachother.
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I am quiet. my family never listens to me. and this post was about telling my family about abuse and them not listening and believing.
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Were u abused?
My family kinda believed me... it took a bit but now we just never talk about it like it never happened.

Sometimes its better that way. But you as an individual might not be able to handle that u know?

Because abuse is such a big thing and mostly taboo some people choose not to 'believe' it because they dont know how to handle it. They might be feeling guilty they couldnt prevent it you know.

If its something you need to get off your chest then sit down with them and just explain best you can and if they wont except it then im sorry hun but that might be something you have to learn to move on from because we cant make people believe us...
Im sorry if this doesnt help but let me know ok.

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that's got to be the hardest thing.
I use to think my family was the most important thing now I just want to get the hell away from them.
IT's almost as if I don't shutup and bow to his fakeass i'm some horrible person who can't do anything right
Yes, it is very hard when they don't believe you. It's like betrayal. I know what this is like. When it comes to the subject of abuse, families react in ways that you cannot predict.

There might not be any totally satisfactory solution. So, instead, you have to find some other path. Denying the abuse might be acceptable for them, but it is not helpful to deny it when you are the survivor. That has been the first step for me - the truth.

You're not a horrible person. If some fool doesn't have the heart or the bravery or the care to believe you, and he wants you to shutup, then he is helping to deny and hide abuse, like many people in this world.
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When a revelation that has come out that someone was abused, families do freakout and deny anything ever happened. Especially parents because they inwardly feel that they somehow "let" this happen. So a lot of the times they freak out and deny anything happened.
Which of course is really harmful to your well being. Don't let their lack of support hinder your progress. You had the guts enough to even bring it up. You are doing the right thing.
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Hello Crystaltears

I can relate very strongly to how you feel.

I was sexually abused by my father as a child. He denied it and my whole family turned against me. My mother accused me of lying and some of my siblings told me I should just have shut my mouth. None of my family stood by me, they stuck by my father.

The pain and effects that you are going through will slowly subside with help. I know this, because it took me a long time to get over the effects of incest and now I'm trying to help others who have been abused.

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This is the thing I am most afraid of in life.

That's why I've never told them, and I never will :/
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