98rodrom - I'm a female, so I can only give you my opinion on this. First of all, what this person did to you was wrong; no question about it. Seeking revenge to me, my opinion again only, usally 'backfires' on ourselves. Now while I understand that your reputation be 'tarnished' there's always positive/good ways to 'bounce back' from it all. Don't seek revenge, life is too short to be 'consumed' with it and to me, things all have a way(s) of working themselves out. Believe me, I DO and can relate to how you're feeling. I've been there and with some people, still am. What keeps me going, in a more positive matter/attitude, is that things always work out, when we least expect things to. I hope you don't mind sharing this with you. I have a neighbor that all I wanted is revenge on (long story). When it first started, that was all I was consumed with; daily. To be quiet honest, it was hurting me and my health, more than it was ever 'hurting' her. Then I inadvertently said something to somebody else, thinking they were no longer friends. It all starting coming down on me. She tried to have my dogs removed by the cops and lie to (my x now) husband saying that she had nothing to do with it. HE even acknowledge she did. So, long story short, I quit 'driving' for revenge on her. I left things to have 'fate' or whatever you want to refer to it. As time has moved on and my 'revenge' streak isn't even a thought any more, I've noticed some things have (sadly-honestly) have started to happen to her.
To me, it all works out in the end. Don't waste your time 'seeking' it. It waste too much energy on things or people that aren't truly worth our own efforts. Concentrate on making yourself the best you can be. People will see that part about you and some, not all, will seem to ignore the past. In the end, either way, you're still further ahead, by moving forward from it all. I know it's not easy! I was overwhelmed with revenge on this person, for years! All it did, every time I saw this person, was make me more and more upset. It was affecting my health and to me, nobody is worth that much effort in my life. It takes more out of us to seek it and in the end, we seem to suffer more than they do. Let it go and be a better person than they are. It's just my thoughts and how I feel.
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. ~ Mary Anne Radmacher
Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one. ~ Bruce Lee
That which does not kill us makes us stronger. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche