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Old 04-17-18, 08:19 AM   #1
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They say forgiveness isn't for the other person, it's for you. But I think forgiveness is just giving them a chance to do it again. A leopard never changes his spots. Human nature is as human nature does.

Growing up, I was always expect to "let it go!!" We would fight, I lose be dominated, backstabbed, and humiliated. Then I was expected to not hold a grudge and to "move on!!" And true to form, it would happen all over again... until I became depressed.

I read that depression is a coping strategy designed by evolution to protect against threats to one's self-esteem. Depressives avoid people who threaten them. I only hung out with other depressives. They were unlikely to hurt me.

I'm hanging on to control so far, but part of me find depression nice or something, like poetic. Just sitting around doing fuck all. Being gentle and not hurting anyone. Having an excuse not to get angry.

But people pressure me not to become depressed. My aunt shouted, "we ALL have been depressed! We ALL have been depressed!" They think I should just "move on!!" And pull myself up by the bootstraps.

But if I do that, then they're in control. It was their idea.

What should I do? Should I become a lazy depressive?
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Old 04-17-18, 09:00 AM   #2
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i think there is a difference between being depressive or lazy..
for me being lazy can be positive,not feeling like doing anything on a nice day...should i clean my garden?should i dust clean my living room??do a big laundry?if i don't feel like doing it...i simply don't..because i lack the drive,the motivation,the willpower,determination?
is procrastination the right word?i often say to myself==i will do this..but often i don't..depression is more a feeling of disinterest in anything even things we usually love to do,it all looks like a sad pointless life when people become or are depressed..it's that gloomy feeling as if one is locked up in an ivory tower and wanna do things or take action,but being unable because depression drives us in a state of telling oneself==i got lack of self esteem,no interest in anything,this world is a pain in my ass etc...to the OP i would say try to live a life with lesser questions and don't look into the wrong answers..life is a how,not a why..if you feel good in being lazy then be,but don't drive yourself into useless depressive thoughts and then say...I lack interest...anyway..it's YOUR lfe..take it under control instead of asking yourself whether you need advice or not...
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