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Old 11-06-06, 07:35 PM   #1
 
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i am so scared of pushing my partner away beause i cant stand sex it is agony i dont no if this is because i got raped or not and i fell really guiltey towards him because it isent his fault and i really think he would be better off without me but he keeps telling me he wouldent dose anyone no why i am such a freak ? :cry:
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Old 11-06-06, 08:50 PM   #2
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Panga, don't you have a little baby?...the reason I'm asking is that sometimes having a young child can totally kill your libido...it's happened to me....it's happened to a lot of women I know...also it can totally be the effect of the rape...I'm sorry sex isn't pleasurable for you anymore. I know exactly how you feel. I don't talk about this very often, but I'm voluntarily practicing total abstinence, and have been for a while. So I know what you're talking about, I think. If you feel like it's a big problem, you might want to talk to your doctor about it, because it might be hormone-related...there's things they can do...my doctor was trying to get me to do something like that...hormone therapy, or some shit...I didn't want it....I tried to explain to her that I'm VOLUNTARILY practicing celibacy...she didn't seem to get it...I don't think she understood at all. Good luck with it Panga, I'm always here if you need to talk, OK?
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panga, i'm sorry this happened to you. It's very normal to have fear and issues with sex after being raped. Your trust and something that is supposed to be intimate and very emotional was violated as well as your phisicalness.

If your partner is okay with your feelings and is willing to give you the time and space you need to feel comfortable then you're lucky. Sex is not the only aspect to a relationship.
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If it's phisical agony,you should go to the doctor. I know some women have that issue. Sometimes it's because there are cysts inside. You should get checked out.
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no i cant go to they doctor dreamer and trigger i am so scard of anyone looking at me i have a little boy so everyone thinks i am daft but i have never and dont think i will ever like it but i cant go to the doctors :(
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why can't you go to the doctors?
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beause the give you ramdom doctors and i always end up getting a man and i am scared of them triggrr
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maybe you could explain that you will only see a female doctor, Im sure your not the only one who dosen't feel comfortable being examined by a male doctor.
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Did you find a female one?

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i never went aries i am not going to
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