When I was a child my parents used to beat the crap out of me regularly. Physically my mother was the worst - she would totally lose control, grab me by the hair and pound my head against the wall. My dad, on the other hand used to punch me almost to unconsciousness, but he was sneaky because he made me feel it was my fault. So I was totally screwed up - if I told anyone what had happened I was told that I was evil - only the truly sick would say anything against their mother. And my dad, well it was all my fault and I used to spend hours trying to work out how I was so bad and what could I do to get better, especially since everything I tried didn't work.
At the age of around 15 the physical abuse stopped or at least tailed off - less alcohol was being used. But my mum kept up a neat habit of emotional abuse up until I was around 38 years old when she had a life threatening illness and her personality was transformed for the better,
My dad, well he's mainly ignored me all these years but last week we had a minor argument - I wanted him to see the doctor because he's developing dementia - and h broke my nose, again.
I can't abandon my mum to this abuse but there's no way I'm going to allow him to start again. I don't know what to do.