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Old 10-23-12, 06:26 AM   #1
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This happened to me. My ex, Jack, did it (like keeping on lying after I told him to stop, even lying more after I get upset and an incident happens because I'm so upset that he lies) and my mother (who does it to my father too) to a certain extent too, denying some big things she said and getting mad at me for "making it up" and "lying". What's funny is that each of those accuses the other of gaslighting.

I'm so tired. I just want an honest relationship with SOMEONE. But where is that someone?

So.... if one more person calls me a spoiled brat, I am going to hurt that fool.


For example, I say something completely normal in a normal voice. He suddenly snaps, "Don't start!" I say "What???" and "What's wrong?" NICELY... and he keeps telling me "STOP THAT!" He later said he was trying to calm me down. But first of all, I was calm until he started saying "STOP that!" and secondly, yelling in a hateful/angry voice at me to stop that is not going to calm me down because it is cruel!!

I believed him because you trust those you love and it was deeply ingrained in my morals. So don't just say it was just me being stupid.

I can't take this any more. My hands are tied. He keeps lying to me because I'm stupid and he knows it. My not-yet-4-year-old son is stuck with him. He made a case that I'm a danger and won custody.

I just hate to be seen as slow, or stupid, or a fool. But I've got news for Jack: slow, stupid, gullible fool Ana never existed except in his warped imagination.

I'm scared this man could step it up to physical violence too. I dunno, he's always been more cautious than that, but if he had brainwashed me a little more he might have done it.

There's good in him too, but it might have been just t show me he was good... which he isn't!

He also got a lot of my family members on his side... oh, fuck me!! I'm fucking screwed. I may have to move far away, but I'd have to keep in contact with Jack for my son's sake, until my son starts answering the phone or calling me himself.
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He's done the gaslighting for years, btw. and he's said ome funny/avoidant/off things over the years.
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I know what you mean, my parents used to do the same thing, not so much anymore though. I thought I was going crazy and just forgetting things that happened and though that my mind was making up things that didn't happen. I still have problems telling if memories are real or not.
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