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Old 08-17-10, 11:10 AM   #1
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What do you do when you are being offended ? how do you react when someone said something that hurt you ? do you let your anger out ? what if you cant release your anger for some reason ? do you keep it in ?
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Old 08-17-10, 12:20 PM   #2
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Personally, I keep it in. I walk away from the situation, release my anger where noone can be hurt by it, then when I am calmer, if I must, I go back and explain that they hurt me, and I would appreciate more care in the future. Of course, it depends on the situation. I have no tolerance for random acts intended to cause physical or emotional harm, and can be quite verbally aggressive in pointing out that that is not acceptable behaviour. I prefer to deal with things having had time to cool off and think though - If i speak in anger, I hurt people.
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I have a pretty thick skin when it comes to anything offensive or...politically incorrect in general. But if someone is really trying to personally hurt me, I can dish out the damage much as the next person. If someone knows my personal issues, I know theirs. But in most cases I just let them vent, they probably have some good reason to do that in which case I soak it up and discuss things rationally later. But if there's no good reason behind it and it's just out of...maliciousness, I can probably outdo him/her in that area.
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Old 08-17-10, 01:28 PM   #4
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Brush it off because nothing any human being can possibly say has the ability to hurt me.

Sometimes, I will get confrontational to show an ignorant person how little they actually know. This works very well in front of a group of his friends.
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I use to cry, but now adays I snap back or say something. I don't take crap from people anymore, and alot fo times I can come across as a bitch because of it..
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Old 08-19-10, 03:58 PM   #6
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Yeah my skin has toughened up over the years, I prefer confrontation now, sometimes the best way to deal with people is to go through em. Other times, I just ignore it and leave it alone. Regardless of what I choose, I do my best not to allow it to get to me. People have no power to hurt you with words, you yourself allows the hurt to enter your mind. You make yourself miserable, sad, and offended, not them.
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Old 08-26-10, 02:10 PM   #7
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depends on the person and the situation.

my family? doesn't matter what it is, i ALWAYS react with anger. not that i want to, but it's so difficult to control when you get screamed at for really stupid reasons.

a friend? if i started the fight, i end up apologizing (after getting all upset). once again, not proud of it. if they just randomly say something? then i get INTO the fight, and usually end up apologizing for something that isn't my fault.


the result? i scream and yell and let it all out. and then i feel so guilty (unless it's family!!!) that i apologize, usually for something i didn't do.


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Old 08-28-10, 06:03 PM   #8
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If I'm offended, I say it, literally along the lines of
"I'm offended"
because sometimes people don't realise they've offended you or hurt you and atleast if you say it, however you react, they won't be oblivious as to why and it gives them a chance to right their wrong or whatever
or sometimes if a friend has said something by accident that hurt
"Hey, that hurts" and I demand an apology not in an intense way, just like playfully but they know that you mean it.

If its a complete fuckin randomer, stand your ground
stick up your middle finger and say "FUCK YOU"
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i usually become very quiet
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I obsess over it, hate myself for doing so, and, in extreme situations, punch myself in the face.
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