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Old 01-05-17, 07:15 PM   #1
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Something that I don't understand which is driving me up the wall.

I would have a question and too many times, the person I'm asking would not even let me finish but would interrupt with something else. Too many times, I've left not getting any answers and feeling even more frustrated. Makes me wonder if there is some deep dark secret or am I a total moron for even asking.

I also get this a lot in conversations. I could be talking with someone and either they would interrupt repeatedly or, someone else would butt in while I'm in the middle of a sentence and change the subject. Too many times I would be basically kicked out of the conversation and left standing or sitting there, angry and feeling like I'm not welcome or have intruded on some sacred place. And the sad part is that the one time I tried that, I got yelled at for being rude by the same people who have done the same to me many times.

One time I asked if I could finish, and one person told me that I was stupid and my voice hurts her ears. Another time, I said sorry for being so obviously boring and the person said "You're forgiven now fuck off". Both are family members and now, they wonder why I don't bother speaking with them much.

Getting so that I don't want any more contact with people.
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Conversation has become shabby, aggressive and not very interesting.

I don't think people should be competing in social conversation. We shouldn't have to fear always being interrupted, or have to beg someone to listen. If someone is so awful they say to you, "you're forgiven, now f off," -- don't be hurt... TAKE HIS ADVICE.

Say to him, "Okay!" and do it: Leave. Take yourself happily somewhere else. In fact, I recommend leaving every conversation that you reasonably can, in which someone is treating you like trash. No need to complain about it or be upset; just think, "Uh oh, the rudeness is starting up again. Time to quit this." -- and be glad that you're about to save yourself from all that frustration.

If someone wants your attention, they ought to realize they have to be civil to you. Withdrawing your attention might seem passive-aggressive but it's really not in this type of situation. It's stopping yourself from feeding into the scenario that seems to bring on their abuse.

The world contains so many other, better conversations, and you deserve to have some you enjoy.

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Old 01-12-17, 10:29 PM   #3
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Thank you stirfry. I appreciate the advice and will definitely put it to use.
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