Been with her for 11 years. When we got together she went to school, had a job, and had her own place. Supported her kids with help from her mom. Less than 3 months in to relationship she gets a DUI, quits school and job and has done nothing since. I do 90 percent of cooking and cleaning and i work 80 plus hours a week. Other 10 percent is done by youngest daughter. oldest daughter and son are mega lazy and do nothing. The three of them hide behind "mental illness" and have myriad excuses for not even picking up after themselves. She has energy to shop and rescue dogs but not work or cook or clean. Any time i have tried to leave she uses master manipulation powers to make me feel like a total piece of garbage. I hide in bedroom any time i am home and clean and cook while she is gone. Mostly i feel like a robot whose only purpose is to make money and do housework, which i mostly refuse to do anymore so now the house is cluttered and filthy. I hate my life and feel trapped. My only options are misery, abandoning this "family" of which "depend" upon me and making me feel like a sack of crap, or putting it to an end. I can make it look like an accident and she will get enough money from my life insurance to buy some time to go back to college, start a career or maybe find another idiot to leech from. Either way it sound nice to not have this or any other problem any more.