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Old 03-15-11, 10:38 PM   #11
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I remember flipping out over the same things a while back. I used to cry and moan over it too. I'm in my mid-20s, never been on a date, never kissed a girl outside of truth or dare, never had sex with a woman and am lucky enough to have hugged some of them. However, I realize most women aren't worth it anyways. None of them even want anything to do with me; more often than not, the only women that even ARE somewhat nice to me are usually EXTREMELY attractive Asian or Pacific Islander women who have boyfriends anyways. I have no idea why... maybe it's because I'm not your "typical alpha male" (which is what their boyfriends almost inevitably are) and the polar opposite of the "boyfriend" type because I've given up on finding a woman I can be mutually in love with and not lie to her about how I feel and plus she has to deal with all these thugnificent guys hitting on her non-stop day after day. Kinda sucks knowing that's probably the only reason why, but at least they could treat me a lot worse.

I'm considering joining Freemasonry because they seem to not let them females get in the way of anything they do. I'd even consider priesthood, but I'm no vegetarian (for Buddhism) and I'm not a Christian.

At least you love yourself; I mean, if you do, you've got a lot going for you already. I think that as long as you continue on loving yourself, you really don't have anything to lose. Women are probably the one thing not worth killing yourself over if you ask me... we've lost too many great men because of that.
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Old 03-18-11, 12:12 PM   #12
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I'm having so many different thoughts about this. I'm all over the place. I'm not suicidal anymore. I feel the girl, or any girl, isn't worth killing myself over.

I guess the real issue here is that I drank too much. I've been on Cymbalta for almost 2 years, I think, and it does not mix well with alcohol for me. If I have more than a few drinks, that night and the next couple of days I slide into a dark depression.

It's one of the reasons that I'm thinking of going off the medication. But I know it wouldn't just make my life great by allowing me to get smashed whenever I want. It's just scary knowing that if/when i drink, I can end up suicidal. I've cut back on drinking quite a bit. But all it takes is one night for me to slip up and end up considering suicide.
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Old 03-18-11, 12:36 PM   #13
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find a social meetup of people with the same interest as you or try dancing,cooking classes ,language classes or some other activity where the enviroment dosent require drinking to meet girls.
I also struggle with the ladies but have no anxiety in approaching a group of hot girls and holding a conversation with them ,
But i went out 5nights a week to social events for 2-3mths to finally overcome my fear of approaching women.

I have a handsome friend who instantly has girls attracted to him from the moment i introduce us but for me I have to display my personalty and confidence to generate the same attraction so remember looks are important but confidence and personality canl make up for a shortfall in looks at times.
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Old 03-18-11, 02:07 PM   #14
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I've been working on finding social groups that don't involve drinking. I know about a bunch of them already. But I let the fear win and keep finding excuses not to go. I'm really defeatist and tell myself that it won't do me any good to go anyway. I expect to instantly meet a woman when I go.

I have both group therapy and individual therapy once a week. The other 5 days a week, I use working out as an excuse. Other times it's chores and errands. yet the time keeps slipping by, and I haven't done a damned thing.

It's so unfair that some guys have such an easy time with women. Most women are shallow, just like men are, a point that generally doesn't get publicized very often. I consider myself handsome, but clearly women don't agree.

Maybe I should try going to social events 5 nights a week for a while and see what happens. It would be hard to find 5 good excuses every week! What was that like for you?

Thanks!
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Old 04-01-11, 04:42 PM   #15
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It's ok. I can see how people might think I was feeling homicidal from my posts. I used some dramatic language. I'm not planning on killing anyone.

What I was trying to say was: when I'm angry, and having violent fantasies (that I'm not going to act on), and don't want to be bothered, random women start conversations with me. And I'm baffled by this.
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that is kinda strange i guess, i think i would be less inclinded to talk to someone if they looked in a bad mood. i don't know though, i am always too shy to start a convo with a stranger.
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And when I say "decent" looking woman, I mean a woman that I'm attracted to. Everyone has preferences for who they're physically attracted to and I don't see anything wrong with that.

I don't expect runway models to cross the street against traffic to ask for my number, but come on! I have had the misfortune of witnessing numerous attractive (to me) women ignoring me to hit on other men. Maybe I'm uglier than I think I am. I have also heard the malarkey that women don't ask men out. It's less common, but happens pretty often in my experience.

I'm just screwed and there's no point in even talking about it anymore.
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Old 04-03-11, 09:39 PM   #18
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I'm not surprised that you have more conversations with women when you have a angry don't give a fuck attitude. It's because you probably project more assertiveness and confidence, even if you aren't exactly a bundle of joy.

The sad but true thing is that confidence is the most important quality as far as guys being attractive to women. Even more so than looks. A really hot shy guy can attract women and get asked out quite a bit, but for the rest of us, confidence is more important than anything. Even when women ask a guy out, usually they aren't asking out a nervous insecure guy - unless he is exceptionally attractive.

The other sad thing is that looks are the most important quality for guys being attracted to women. Most shy and insecure men could find a date if they lowered their standards a bit as unattractive women tend to be not very picky at all.

Be very suspicious of advice that doesn't take this into account, lol :P.

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Maybe they view you as shallow?
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(((hugs))) I bet something good will happen and surprise you someday. focus on being happy and loving yourself and women will eventually notice that, I promise.
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