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Old 03-13-11, 01:00 AM   #1
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One of my friends got asked out by one of the girls in our group of friends who broke up with her boyfriend recently. Why him and not me? Obviously because I'm an unattractive piece of shit. Women never ask me out or show any interest in me. Women in relationships always tell me how "great" I am though. What a load of bullshit. My life is bullshit. I'm so sick of my life. There is no point. It doesn't matter what I do. I'm always going to be a lonely loser.
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Every guy I know gets hit on by women at least some of the damned time! Not me though. People claim I just need to have confidence. But that's a load of horseshit. It doesn't matter how confident I am. I love myself. I think I'm great. But clearly women do not agree. At least not decent- looking women who have a choice of who they date.

I see guys who I feel I'm better looking than. Better dressed than. Funnier than. Better personality than. Superior in every way imaginable. Yet they will still get attention from women before I do, without doing a single fucking thing. And I really don't think I come off as arrogant. So please don't say that might be the reason. I always get told how "nice" I am. And I strive very hard not to be a dickhead.

I guess I'm just cursed. There's nothing I can do. There's no point in trying. I'll never have anyone to actually love me. Being successful doesn't matter. I'll just have to continue to watch everyone around me fall in love, get married, and have kids. What the hell's the point of being "successful" if I'm just going to die alone anyway? It's pointless. The world won't stop turning without one loser.
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Old 03-13-11, 12:50 PM   #3
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22, and never had a girlfriend, let alone a female friend in a while. I can relate.

Although I hit the gym like a motherfucker, shower everyday, dress in the most expensive shit, bleach my teeth, be nice as hell, blah blah blah. No fucking point.

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Old 03-13-11, 01:18 PM   #4
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You might be looking for the wrong type of girls or at least surrounded by the wrong type. Depending on your age (and her age) you may come off as boyfriend type but not hook-up type or the other way around. I am a girl btw. I always attract the type of guys I don't want to date because I'm way too nice. You could be doing something totally right but those women just aren't appreciating it because they haven't grown up yet or they're really shallow.

Don't take it personally that girls are always after your friends. It could be that they act a little more natural or are easier to talk to. However, those are things that you can work on and get better at. And as far as the women hitting on your friends, maybe instead of waiting for a girl to hit on you, you should hit on her first instead. But don't be cocky, just be real. Girls love that.

I hope this makes sense in some way. I try to give advice to my guy friends about how I'd like to be treated but of course I'm not every girl in the world and we all are very different.
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I used to feel exactly the same way, automatron. Every woman I've ever beenwith has dumped me-not the other way 'round. When the last one took my kids, and moved 2,000 miles away, well, that REALLY hurt. I was born with an oomphaliseal-it's a condition where, basically, my guts were hanging out. I also had a hole in my heart. When I started getting really down on myself the last time, I started trying to use logic to reason myself back to normalcy. Sadly, all logic did was point out that, if there is a god, fate, whatever, it obviously intended for me to die at birth; I'm only here because I was "lucky" enough to have a good doctor nearby when I was born the way I was. I'll skip the boring details and just say that that line of thinking wound up putting me in the hospital.

When I got out of the hospital, I'd changed. I didn't really get a lot of counseling or anything, I'd just ran out of insurance and was more-or-less curb-sided. Internally, I began to reason things out a bit and realized that I need to stop whining and take care of things for myself for once-no one is going to do it for me, no matter how hard or how loud I cry. I'm not suggesting you get quite as negative as I did, but let me tell you the gist of where this all is going:

For the first time since I can remember, I wasn't looking for a girlfriend. I was truly occupied with the things that mattered to me-I had a cat, I had my computer and I had the Internet. What more is there? As far as women were concerned, I was actually at the point where I was fantasizing about a woman telling me that she loved me and me then growling, "DON'T YOU EVER SAY THAT! YOU EFFING LIAR!" (I just want to point out how extreme my view was on women at this time). Well, about a month later, I met the woman who is now my wife!

Think of it as advertising, auto. If you're constantly thinking, "No woman wants me, no woman wants me..." This is going to reflect in subconscious messages that you send out to others. Basically, by repeating this to yourself, you're telling women, "You don't want me. You should keep looking elsewhere for pleasure and satisfaction because I'm incapable of providing it for you" The trick is to not think about it. Get involved in something else you like doing, whether that's reading, exercising, playing video games, whatever. Just make something else, other than finding a woman and your insecurity on the issue your main focus. You watch-very soon after you've gotten something in your life that makes you happy that you're single, because having a relationship would take away from your time to enjoy it, that's when you're going to run into her!


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Chemistry counts. You can be the most perfect man and she the most perfect girl and it can still not be right. It really doesn't matter what you look like as long as you're clean and relatively dressed well. Make her laugh and she'll remember you. Too much swearing can be a turn off as well as bragging. Ask her about herself, her likes and dislikes. Don't be sullen if she doesn't seem interested right away, she needs time to get to know you. Maybe she'll ask around about you first. But in the end you'll most likely need to take the first step. Don't worry about making a fool of yourself, if she likes you that won't matter. If she turns you down, be nice, she may give you good press to another girl.
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Calm down, they're just people... I'm 15, never had a girlfriend, and I'm proud of it. Seriously, most of the people (girls or boys) out there SUCKS. They're either parasites or they're too superficial to understand your feelings.

No-one wants me too. I have no friends, I don't have a girl, sometimes I even feel like I don't have a freaking family.

I don't understand why you're sad for that, seriously. You probably didn't get anyone because nobody can understand the great person you are, man. Humanity, as a whole, is superficial. Most of the people out there are gonna be too superficial to understand how great you are, buddy.

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Thanks for the kind words, everyone. I talked to my therapist on the phone, and she was able to talk me down a bit. I'm still not thrilled to be alive. But I'm feeling less like killing myself for now.

Glassique: My problem is that I’m a coward with women. I never take any risks. I just sit back and whine (to myself).
Vegasgeek: It’s like I don’t enjoy anything in life. Everything seems like a waste of time. I’m just killing time and hoping some woman will like me. It's so hard for me to really get into anything. I get bored. Or just don't have the energy to put into it in the first place. I know it would be good to do though. And I'll keep trying
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Being successful doesn't matter. I'll just have to continue to watch everyone around me fall in love, get married, and have kids. What the hell's the point of being "successful" if I'm just going to die alone anyway?
That's basically what I think too, in fact I'm not even attempting to find any job largely because of this. I don't have an opportunity to meet anyone male or female these days because I'm locked up at home.

Just wanted to say you're not alone, I'm 24 and never had a gf either. Good luck.
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One of my friends got asked out by one of the girls in our group of friends who broke up with her boyfriend recently. Why him and not me? Obviously because I'm an unattractive piece of shit. Women never ask me out or show any interest in me. Women in relationships always tell me how "great" I am though. What a load of bullshit. My life is bullshit. I'm so sick of my life. There is no point. It doesn't matter what I do. I'm always going to be a lonely loser.
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Look, just be yourself and talk with that woman about things she likes or interest her. Learn to listen her. Learn to make her feel like she is special. Tell her sweet things. And by the way...be a man. Not meaning to beat her but a woman who likes men expect from a man to be a little macho. Just a little. I hope that will help you. And believe me, that is not a reason to kill yourself. All men passed from that and every woman.
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