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Old 12-30-15, 02:09 AM   #11
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That's not true sherry you did not "let this happen". It is common for abused to feel responsible or to blame for their abuse. But you're not. Nor do you "deserve" to be raped. That's just nonsense. No one "deserves" abuse. What you are responsible for is to seek help to overcome the effects of abuse and to help you get past this sort of self defeating and self destructive thinking. Your brother can only control what you allow him to control and if you choose to not let him have control then you are in control and not him. Your choice seems be clouded by his abuse right now, and you need to get yourself the help you need to escape his control once and for all. But you have to choose to want that help, no one else can make that choice for you, and I sincerely hope you do make that choice. There really is no alternative, as this abuse and its control over you must not be allowed to continue and to wreak havoc on you.
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Old 12-30-15, 02:14 AM   #12
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thank you nancy i want help but i am not fixable i mess up everything no point in anyone trying to help me im a fuckup
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Old 12-30-15, 02:24 AM   #13
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i cant do anything to fix any situation i do deserve whatever bad thing may happen next to me abadonment getting raped and beaten up again by my brother im a awful person i know this i caused hurt to people who cared i drove everyone away besides my brother and stepmom and karen
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Sherry you cannot do this. You cannot. You must go to the hospital and tell them all this. They will help you. You are in no condition to be making any other choice. You are not thinking straight as you are not well. Go to emergency please and seek their help in this situation; it will probably save your life. Let me know how it goes for you at the hospital. You must not go to your brother. He is the last person on earth that you should be entrusting your welfare to.
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Old 12-30-15, 04:29 AM   #15
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thank you nancy but i realized and know that i deserve to be raped and beaten up by my brother i let this happen i have to face the conseqences for my actions .,........im at a point i dont care if he starts doing this to me again ....no one would ever believe me hes smart and whatever i am nothing
Jesus Christ...fuck no!

That's horse shit...and it scares the crap out of me that you think that. You didn't let it happen. I don't care how smart, successful and well-liked he is...if he abused you...your brother is a half-assed excuse of a human being...has no right to call himself a man and is probably not worth the blood running through his veins.

You don't deserve to feel bad for what he may have done to you. You're not nothing! You matter. You are special and important and lovely and deserve the life you want for yourself!...I'm not a religious man, but I'll pray to every god I can think of that you realize that...sooner rather than later!

Please!!! No more thoughts like this...okay?
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Old 01-02-16, 10:02 PM   #16
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Old 01-07-16, 02:05 AM   #17
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I hate how my brother makes me feel he has caused me so much pain and I have nightmares of all of the sick sadistic things he has done to me sexually. ........I can't get past this it has effected me too much.....I saw my psychiatrist today.......it didn't go well........my brother is always right about everything I am always wrong. ...
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Old 01-07-16, 10:33 AM   #18
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Dear Sherry,

From what I've read so far, your brother has abused you to a point where he has destroyed you mentally.

This is not okay.

I know it's a scary, painful thing to come around to but this was not your fault in the slightest. Trying to make it seem like you deserved it, breaking it down into something that is 'not so important' is a maladaptive way to try and ease the pain you're feeling from being isolated and abused. You didn't deserve it.

You are not always wrong. Something that you did right? You talked about this. You sought help. This is something you did right, just one thing even though I don't know you at all. Your brother is not right, all the time, either. For what he's done to you he deserves to be in jail. You might've driven people away from you, but was that because you're going through hell right now and you needed them, but they couldn't provide? If you really, honestly believe that you need to atone for past actions, you should do something that is good- rather than letting something bad happen, rather than letting the evil that your brother is inflicting continue.

It's difficult. But you've taken the first step, and you can see there are people here willing to help you. We care about you. Please, care about yourself... Get away from those disgusting abusers.
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Find strength in yourself. Reinforcing these negative beliefs will only result in drawn-out, painful mental health deterioration.
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