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I'm not sure what to do with my friend.
So okay. This friend, we were best friends in high school. Then we went to college.
In the beginning she seemed to have a lot of trouble adjusting, so I tried to help and see if I could do anything to make it better...I guess I did, since she's doing a lot better off than I am. Our friendship was alright last semester, but this semester everything's changed and I'm not sure why, I'm assuming it's sorority, but it's more than that. It's also the things that have manifested throughout last semester that have happened but are happening more frequently.
So, yeah. She joined sorority this semester. I wanted to join too, but I had such a horrible time last semester with classes that I didn't do well, so I couldn't get in. So while I'm usually either doing homework or, well nothing else, she's making a lot more friends than I have, or ever will here, since I found that there aren't many places to do so here. But as she was making friends, I was feeling abandoned at the same time, and I was also a little jealous that she had more of a life than I had, because I love being busy, but there's not that much to do on campus that I have shown interest in. This also happened somewhat last semester too, but mostly for just ditching me at parties.
One night, three of us went to a party, and her one friend we went with just took her and played beer pong for four hours straight. And what, did they expect me to just stand there and watch? No, so I tried finding something else to do, but everyone by that point was already dancing and whatnot so I just left. She apologized the next morning, but it has always happened, so I stopped going to parties with her.
It's not just the party ditching though. Whenever her and my roommate (which we used to be good friends too) talk and make plans, I'm ALWAYS left out of it. And the only time they ever include me is when they feel bad for their poor pathetic friend and they're like, "oh, well, would you like to join us?" I'm sorry, but I personally find that to be very insulting to me, as though I'm their inferior, just a degenerate friend, a tagalong to them, where we used to be so much closer. I don't know what happened. Sorority, I presume. I'm never even invited to get high with them, even though I enjoy it and we've done it before, they just keep it a secret for me, which is probably why I'm the most pissed off. THEY ALWAYS KEEP SECERTS FROM ME!!!
It's ridiculous. I feel like everyone that's her friend now is trying to be best friends with her trying to do everything with her. Well she's not that great of a person, why does everyone care? For example, we were planning on going to go to spring break. Three of us, her, me and my roommate. Of course, my roommate "wanted" me to go, but she pretty much wouldn't go unless my "friend" was going. She's going to Florida instead. My roommate NEVER told me that she cancelled plans. I could've bought plane tickets for all I care, they obviously didn't.
We do nothing together anymore, hell, we don't even eat lunch together. We can't even talk to each other because I feel as though I have nothing to say to her at this point, we have nothing in common. I haven't told her that I'm transferring yet, and I'm not sure if I will. I just don't want to just leave the school and her on such a sour note.
I don't know what to do anymore. I feel as though they treat me with no respect, or that I'm just crazy. I don't want to leave her life entirely, since we have two other mutual best friends back home, so every time I would see them it would just feel awkward, and I'd lose all my friends possibly.
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