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Old 03-04-15, 11:44 AM   #1
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hii people. I'm not the best looking person in my school.. probably the worst. I have a 16 year old sister who is very pretty, we don't look alike at all. One day my 2 friends see her and they tell me she's very pretty, so I tell them yeah! she is! then.. it escalates to bullying.. this girl says 'She's soooo pretty.. why are you her sister?' and she and her friend started laughing. I died at least 1000 times inside, I'm a very sensitive person with low confidence, and they just stab my weak point. She goes like 'You look nothing like her' (Kind of like saying, even though you're her sister, don't her your hopes up, you'll always be ugly) then her friend says 'No, she's pretty in her own way...' and starts laughing. I was so embarrassed. I went up to class and sat on my desk. My friend (who didn't see how they insulted me) comes and tells me hi and all that stuff. I don't reply because I was about to burst into tears. I didn't answer her, so she asked me why I was spacing out, and I pretended my eyes burnt because of my contact lenses. I laughed it off.. again.. When the bell rang I had maths. during the class I shed so many tears.. my face was literally wet, but I didn't let anyone hear or see. this isn't the first time I get bullied, I get hurt so much deep inside. I don't know what the word for that is. anyways, I can't tell teachers nor my mom my mom would think I'm weak and she doesn't really help, and I don't want to tell any of the teachers. I just wish I had some sort of angel to watch me the whole time.. making sure I won't get hurt. or immediately punishing those who hurt me. I'm a nice person, I don't get why I should get bullied in such a cruel way. I hate the outdoors. I hate my school. most of my friends are online. it's tearing me apart. I'm sad. I'm depressed. just because of my school.
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Old 03-04-15, 12:06 PM   #2
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Could you transfer schools?
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Old 03-04-15, 12:48 PM   #3
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I know it hurts.
First of all, there‘s nothing wrong with beeing sensitive. There is so much social pressure that we need to be ‘numb‘ to insults that people who are not, start to feel like something is wrong with them. Trust me, there is nothing wrong with beeing sensitive. I mean, you‘re a human, you are suppoesed to feel.
And, yes, I know how much words can hurth. But most people don‘t. Because they are having fun, and don‘t see your side of the story. In most cases people don‘t even know they insulted you. For them, it was a joke. They don‘t see it can hurth.
Now, I would give you some practical advice. But take everything I say as my thoughts only. I‘m not very good with this kind of things. I usually solved it by bashing someone‘s had over and over again untill they stop (and I regret it).
Maybe you could try telling them how much it hurts. I‘m not very introduced in whole thing, and I don‘t really know how close you are. If you‘re, like, really close, I would try to talk to them. On the other hand, if you aren‘t, I would try to talk to someone. When my sister had a same problem, she told a teacher, and things got fixed in like, two days. And, people who bullied her never did it again. But you said it‘s not an option, so I really don‘t know what to tell you. But you need to do something. If you wait and hope they will stop if you don‘t react, you‘re wrong. I know quite a lot of people who were in same problem and never did anything. You know how many of them solved a problem? None. People like that have fun when they degrade others. Actually most of people does. It‘s not because they are bad people. It‘s just that they are unsecure and they feel better about themselves when they degrade others. Because they can say “I‘m not that bad. Look, I‘m better than him/her“. Maybe if things are really bad, you could try SensualGirl‘s advice. Depends on how bad situation is.
I just remembered. You said you‘re not as attractive as your sister. And I know how much modern society empathise on look. But, trust me, at the end, it‘s not most important thing about person. I know girl everybody was telling how ungly she is. And I was just stuned when I heard it. She is not even looking that bad. But because of her look people refused to get to know her. And she really is amazing person. And I believe thing is same with you. Don‘t let it make you feel bad about yourself. In the end, inside is what metters.
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stephani~I used to be bullied, as a child, teen, & now it's in my adult life. I'm sorry you're being bullied;truly. My advice to you is this. First of all, it needs to be "resloved." If you don't do anything about it, they won't stop. It will progressively become worse & more people may "join in." You need to talk to your school counselor or someone about what's occuring within your life at school. You're NOT weak for standing up for yourself, please DO NOT think/believe that for a moment. The most important thing here, to remember, is letting the people that bully you know that it is NOT ACCEPTABLE to do this to anyone;ever. I'm going to share this with you, as it's a true example of what can/does happen to people. I hope, sincerely you don't mind me doing so. I lost a dear friend, when I was 12 years old, to people that bullied her. That's why it's so very important to stand up to people that bully another/yourself. These days, more so than ever, it's truly not acceptable. Please, take to heart to what I'm saying dear. No one has the right(s) to be mean, degrade, or belittle another.
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don't think too much about what other people think - especially when they are ignorant.

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