I think the how of it is that you do something that you think, "I like this" when you do it, and repeat the doing of it. It's something fun usually, not like folding socks or making sure all the crumbs are off the counter. Maybe it's taking a walk and identifying all the trees on the block, or taking photos of flowers, or drawing, or making foods from different cultures and cuisines. You could start stretching and doing some kinds of basic exercise/health routine and decide that health and fitness is your hobby. Maybe it's altering cloths so that they fit you and your imagination, or making costumes or painting faces, working on different hairstyles, reading books... The list is long and possibly endless. You get them by starting them and then realizing that they work for you. You don't have to be good at them when you start and you don't have to spend a lot of money to do them. You just have to like them and the goodness comes with time. That's my 2 cents.