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Old 07-06-10, 03:00 AM   #1
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So, yeah. Title says it all. How do you deal with people (from real life) that only want to talk about themselves in conversations?

It's extremely annoying, I feel neglected and used by people that do this. I *always* try to talk about the other person and sometimes avoid trying to talk about myself and my own experiences so that I can let the other person talk.

My grandmother used to say "If you want to make new friends, let them talk about themselves!" and I believe this is a very good idea to live by. People like to feel loved, but when they demand that the conversation (and perhaps the Sun) revolve around them, it becomes tiring very quickly.

So, I would like to ask, how do you deal with such problems? (feel free to talk about your experiences all you want LOL)
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lol hilarious. i dunno, i just figure if it makes them happy to talk about themselves why stop them. i usually end up zoning out and just pretending to listen anyway, unless theyre actually interesting, in which case theres no problem.
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Old 07-06-10, 07:38 PM   #3
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it doesnt bother me a lot since i rarely volunteer information about myself when im with people. i tend to rely on others for conversation

the only time it can get annoying is when i actually have something important that i feel needs attention, but this only happens with my mom since she's the only person i talk to about private stuff. and i dont say tons with her either

generally i dont think people will be able to relate to what im thinking about
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Well, I guess one sided conversations and entire friendships bore and infuriate me merely because it becomes apparent the other person cares very little and only is interested in telling their life story.

Pow, I know what you are saying, I have often done that, but it gets to a point where it makes me annoyed. If they show little interest after all that time... feels a little lopsided.
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i admit i do talk to others about myself. i usually do it to try to draw them out, though, trying to relate it to them. i feel very nosy and rude asking others about themselves. i do ask some things but i'm afraid they will just feel creeped out if i ask too much.
some people are intimidated by silence, so if u aren't doing much talking, they may be trying to make things comfortable for u both.
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Well I don't really get bothered by it but I do have one friend who brags 24/7 about himself and gets so much on my nerves. and I try my hardest not to talk about myself and 96% of the time I end up not having to say a word about me.
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Maybe they talk so much about themselves because theyr filling the void? Like, they're just waiting for you to say something but untill then, they'll keep talking so there isn't silence.
Plus you don't necesarily have to put up with these type of people. If you don't enjoy their company then seek elsewhere.
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i agree with blue girl and heresToTommorow . I'm guilty myself of ranting on and on about myself but purely because i hate the awkward silence in a conversation , ill ask a few questions first and then start talking , i dont think it helps that im really open as well ill say anything to anyone
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The silence theory is interesting, and I like the ideas that you bring up about filling the void, connecting people together in the absence of any other discussion, but the problem I have is when people actively ignore what I say and speak over the top of me about themselves. That is truly annoying.

And yeah, HeresToTomorrow, thats probably the only solution :/
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