Uncomfortably Numb

This is an interesting question, for me I'd say it does somewhat. I think it's an important part of life, and I'd like to get as much enjoyment from it as possible. There's an expectation in society for men to have a high sex drive though and that leads to people putting too much pressure on themselves. I try not to fall into that mind trap, but occasionally I do. It's one of those situations where sometimes it's hard to accept yourself just as you are, instead of as you'd like to be.

I think it's more that sex is important to men, and we remember how it used to be, and wish it to be how it once was. It's about wanting to be "normal" (but of course there is no "normal," everyone is different!) and wanting to be the best that you can be. It can be hard to accept the changes that come with aging or from other difficulties in life such as depression.

Just to nitpick a bit... it's more like not being able to get from A to B sometimes, or not having any interest in making the trip, even though you know the journey would be fun.

crimson

hey pete i think it is the meds, at least that is what it was for me

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bigpmc

Im 27 and hardly have a sex drive at all. Its VERY rare that i have the urge for sex, and most times when i do have sex its because my girlfriend wants it and i dont want to disappoint.

I am on medication ( Anti depressants and strong painkillers ), so perhaps its those, but even in my teens i dont remember being that obsessed with sex or thinking about it all the time. Maybe im just not highly sexed, like most things i imagine that the sex drive varies from person to person, and with age so perhaps im one of the unlucky ones, as i do wish that i wanted it more, but i just dont feel like it. To be quite honest when i had sex for the first time i thought its was disappointing. I mean there was nothing wrong with the girl or anything its just that you kind of build up what it will be like in your head and the real experience just doesnt measure up. Anyone else feel a bit disappointed with the reality of sex when compared to your imagination?

510178

I haven't had much of a sex drive since I started taking my antidepressant(zoloft). It's actually kind of a good thing since my self gratification was, I think, compulsive. Also, I don't date so disappointing a woman isn't an issue for me.

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fallenrain

I've heard that men around their 40's have a hormone that changes around that age. Perhaps that's the problem?