10-14-2009, 09:24 AM
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Sex Drive
My sex drive seems to happen just randomly.
I can have a month or 2 where all I think about is sex. And then go for months on end with no thought at all.
I am 43 years old, and overweight. Could it be my age? My health? Or my depression.
I think age has a lot to do with it.
When I was in my 20's all I thought about, ALL the time was sex.
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10-14-2009, 10:55 AM
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When I was in my 20's all I thought about, ALL the time was sex.
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I can only say that about my teens :(
It's probably a combination of all three (health, age, depression).
Is it more that you don't even want to have sex very often, or more that you have "troubles"?
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10-14-2009, 11:01 AM
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Just have no desire from time to time.
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10-15-2009, 09:09 AM
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Well I know it's natural for it to lessen as you age, I'm only 22 and have a vastly lower sex drive than when i was in my teens. But depression and health can also be a factor, so i'd talk to your doctor. If everything is physically able to work without a hitch then it is probably either the depression (talk to your therapist) or your age/health (talk to you doctor).
I hope that helps and that I wasn't just stating the obvious or anything.
I've tried Yohimbe pills, they worked mildly, hard to know if it's a placebo effect or not though. Check out warnings online about it before you try them though, I think it can interact with heart conditions or something.
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10-15-2009, 05:59 PM
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I'd think that depression, health and age would most likely have a big effect on sex drive. Depression would especially make it inconsistant. But even without those 3 factors, its still natural for it to fluctuate, I'm 22 and average weight for my height. Times when I haven't been depressed, my sex drive has massively varied from week to week and month to month. I'd still advise that the general rule is if its bothering you enough to post about it, its important enough to see a doctor about.
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10-30-2009, 05:35 AM
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Well cant be the age for 2 reasons 1,i know people alot older still doing it 2,as in the tarantula world all mature males have on the mind is sex.But im the same way i never have the need to though causes issues with the OH i have to assume its depression for mostly at one point i got so depressed i couldnt even do it even if i wanted to it happens.
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10-31-2009, 06:01 AM
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My sex drive... I just find it sad and amusing, like and old friend who's never grown up and always acts inappropriately, to the horror of the others at the event, and to my great amusement.
Wish I was actually attracted to any of the people showing interest. Well, actually I have been, but the whole thing just floods in and I can't help seeing the car wreck it would lead to; kind of ruins the moment. Feel so wistful when it's so clear that I've never even cossed the mind of people I'm attracted to.
I'm looking forward to the inevitable end of the farce; I figure (I take the apparent age of the actors in the viagra commercials and add ten years) I've got 25 years or so before the weiner forgets how to get big. I suspect I'll finally truly fall head over heels in love and have it reciprocated right about then.
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12-03-2009, 05:26 PM
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When I’m depressed, I also lose interest in sex but it also extends to intimacy in general, I can never really get my head round the fact that when I need a hug the most, I can’t stand anybody physically close to me. It also really messes with your partners head... they see you need a hug and as the move in, you freeze and go all rigid.
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12-03-2009, 07:03 PM
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do you think perception of healthy sex drive somehow factors into how you define your own identity?
The reason I ask is because performance seems to be highlighted alot by men. It makes me think that you have be a hotted up car rather than an old bomb.
They still get you from A to B but I suspect that isn't how men see it.
what do you think?
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12-04-2009, 11:06 AM
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I'm 44 and in good phyiscal condition, I'm married but it's nonphysical at this point, I've noticed that stress plays a huge part of my sex drive. Sometimes I desire nothing more than a long wet kiss and it I can't shake the feeling for days. It drives me crazy, but if I'm stressed I have no desire for any kind of physical contact.
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