Sweet Denial

Anyway. I have a question.

My boyfriend has been in Kentucky visiting his mother since Tuesday. I haven't seen him since Sunday. So, basically, I've gone a week without being with him. I already posted about the fact that I basically had a meltdown when he told me he was leaving. Since then, things have been going pretty alright. I've been keeping myself rather busy, as to not think about the fact that he isn't here. So it's being going alright. Been keeping myself together. Still miss him terribly, though.

Now, for the question. I have come to notice that, whenever my boyfriend isn't around (either out of the state, or just home for the night) I clench my teeth. It's an awfully weird habit, but one that I can't seem to break. Like, whenever I'm alone, or even in a group of people where talking isn't happening, I clench my teeth. Yet, that doesn't happen when I'm with him. It's the oddest thing. Can anyone maybe explain it?

Thanks in advance for any help.

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Sweet Denial

I'm completely crazy, aren't I...

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ashesaway

not crazy..teeth clenching is one way the body has for dealing with stress.You are quite normal.I'm sorry you have to have these lonely times,though.There are mouth pieces you can buy for teeth clenching to protect your teeth and gums from pain while sleeping anyways..Go to your local pharmacy if you're interested in it..and work on easing your loneliness when he is away.I just recommended meet ups to someone else here.

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Sweet Denial

Thanks, ashes. :] That makes a lot of sense. Now that I think about it, too, I do tend to be more stressed when I'm not with him. At least when we're together, the stuff that I'm dealing with doesn't feel like...so much, y'know? It might be a good thing for me get a mouth piece. I'm not sure, but I think I do clench my teeth when I sleep. Sometimes my mouth hurts when I wake up. The teeth clenching is one of the reasons that I always chew gum. At least when I clench, it doesn't hurt as much.

Thanks so much for the support. It means a lot.

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shadowAKA086

I wouldn't call you crazy. I'm crazy; you're not crazy. You just really love your boyfriend. There's nothing wrong with that. A bit of advice, if I may: try not to be too "clingy". Clinging to him isn't going to do you any favors. I'm not saying don't show affection, I'm just saying don't go overboard.

In the meantime, try doing something that you know he wouldn't want to do, but what you would want to do (if that makes sense).

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Sweet Denial

Thanks for the reply, Shadow. Yeah, I'm trying not to be too clingy. It's one of my biggest frears that I'll come across as clingy. I guess because I have a really clingy personality in general (it's one of the faults of Seperation Anxiety), that I'm trying extra hard not to appear to be that way. Does that make any sense? I guess what I'm getting at is that it's hard for me to draw the line between "showing affection" and "clinginess."

That's probably a good idea. I've been thinking that maybe I'd go to his DnD meet. I've gone to the last two, and it's probably coming across as I only go because of him. That was the case at first, but now...I actually really like going. His friends are really nice, too. I like them. I'm just not sure how awkward I'd feel being at his meet without him, y'know? Besides, I don't know where the meet even is this week, and I don't have numbers for any of the people he plays with.

So... I don't know. Maybe I'll just stick with doing something for myself, that I know he wouldn't want to do. (If I could just think of something, that is. -___-) We pretty much share the same interests, so it'll be difficult to figure out the same things.

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lostinmidlife

are there any indicators making you feel uneasy with his going away? has he given any reason for you to worry

if it is just you missing him - i understand

seperation for whatever reason is tough

Sweet Denial

Oh. No, he's never given me a reason to worry. He's made it pretty clear that he's dedicated to me. It's never once crossed my mind that he'd ever think about cheating on me, or anything of that nature. I'm awfully trusting of him. Which is a new feeling for me. I've never before trusted anyone as quickly and as deeply as I do him.

Long story short, no. He's never given me any reason to worry, or feel uneasy about him going away. Really all it is, is just me missing him.

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lostinmidlife

missing is good - i know it may not seem that way

i am glad there is not a bad reason for your concern

when will he be home

Sweet Denial

Well, yeah. I know missing is good. I'd start to think something was wrong if I didn't miss him. Which I do. Terribly so.

He'll be home July 9th. So about six days.

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