GraceloveandADD

ugh, I used to be really pretty. I'm going to a wedding this weekend and I am so down. How am I supposed to fall in love if I am older than the catches (i'm 26) and just down, and look pretty bad these days, plus I was in grad school, broke up with my ex, and now I'm doing a assistant job... it's not cool. Definitely in a loser position.

hottea654

There is nothing wrong with you, other then that you feel down. You can fall in love at any age, people do it all the time at every age. You are not less then a good person just because you broke up with your boyfriend or aren't younger like those in the wedding party. The fact that you have a job right now, regardless of its glamour, makes you employed which these days is saying quite a bit. It sounds like you are doing alright, so try not to be too hard on yourself.

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GraceloveandADD

Thank you. I just don't know if I should pretend to be happy and be fake at the wedding or I should act like I really feel, down upset, hurt, sensitve.. i'd be able to play the damsel in destress card naturally, but that has never worked for me when I have acted on how I felt (sad, reserved, shy) maybe this time will be different? I also hate dancing a lot.

GraceloveandADD

wishful thinking

You're everything I need and more
It's written all over your face
Baby I can feel your halo
Pray it won't fade away

I can feel your halo halo halo
I can see your halo halo halo
I can feel your halo halo halo
I can see your halo halo halo

Hit me like a ray of sun
Burning through my darkest night
You're the only one that I want
Think I'm addicted to your light

I swore I'd never fall again
But this don't even feel like falling
Gravity can't forget
To pull me back to the ground again

More lyrics: Beyonce Lyrics

XXC

There is nothing wrong with your age, and I think a lotta guys (myself included) are attracted to women who have their life figured out a little more, have a job, and are more mature. And 26 isn't old at all. That is still young! And obviously you are smart if you finished school. That's a plus too. And if you keep working hard a better job will come to you. We all gotta start somewhere.

I think you should try to have fun at the wedding. I'm sure your friends will be there. And I'm sure you will look just fine. Don't even worry about what younger women look like.

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PrairieDawn

Grace....

I agree with all of the advice you received. I am older than you, and I have to say that men have noticed me far more since I've been older - probably because of what XXC said. And every guy who has been interested in me has been younger than me. Sometimes by over 10 years. And I am anything but pretty. Far from it, I think.

Any man worth anything will see through the superficial, and be attracted to what's inside.

GraceloveandADD

Thanks so much guys! :) that's exactly what I needed to hear!