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Old 07-01-2010, 06:49 PM   #1
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I have a couple of guys that would go out with me but I have this problem. I panic and won't talk to them. I completely shut down and reject every guy. I have never had a bf because of this and I want one so badly. I don't understand why I do this but I can't help it. I consciously try to get over it but nothing works. I don't know what to do. I have just about given up. I know I'm going to end up alone and that makes living each day harder.
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Old 07-01-2010, 08:20 PM   #2
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why do u think u panic? what are u afraid could happen?
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Old 07-02-2010, 12:17 AM   #3
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I really don't know. There is just something that happens when I realize a guy is trying to 'talk' to me. It's like a switch is flipped and I shut down and find some reason not to talk to the guy. It's hard to explain. I don't understand it at all
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Old 07-02-2010, 03:13 AM   #4
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Maybe you are afriad of being hurt or rejected.
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Old 07-02-2010, 08:39 AM   #5
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have u tried to figure it out, or does it bother u too much
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Old 07-04-2010, 12:38 AM   #6
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I am constantly trying to figure out why. I have no clue and nothing makes sense. Everything is telling me go ahead but something just stops me. I seriously cannot go forward with a guy.
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ok, so what if u did let a guy talk to u without shutting him out?
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Old 07-05-2010, 10:39 PM   #8
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I don't know. I can't make myself not shut him out. Or more accurately don't know how to make myself not shut him out. I have had so many opportunities to talk to guys but it always ends up the same way. I just don't understand why I do it because I really don't want to be alone forever.
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do u have any problems making friends?
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Old 07-07-2010, 10:45 PM   #10
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Yes the only friends I have I have known all of my life literally. I don't even really feel connected to them. There is only one person I can kinda be comfortable with but I even have trouble talking to her sometimes.
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