powpowpow

Its the second time around for me, being in a poor relationship. Someone that always makes sure to treat me like crap and make me feel bad about myself. I don't understand why I let people do this to me, it doesn't make any sense. Surely its as easy as finding someone that makes you happy, no other nonsense on the side..? I don't know why this keeps happening.

TrollMongo

I have heard that people with low self esteem tend to pick partners who do not treat them well, maybe because they feel they do not deserve better, or do not deserve to be happy.
Have you thought about talking to a counselor or minister about this. Clergy would be free if your a church member so that might me a good course to take.
Hope iit works out for you.

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LordAdonis

Poor relationship? My god, I would be happy with any kind of relationship. Unfortunately in my case, the second party would have to be blind. As for turning to ecclesiastical types for advice, I say that any representative of a god that deposits sub par individuals such as myself on this Earth without the means to cope deserves nothing but scorn.

simonsays

Haha LordAdonis how adequately put my boy.. Fancy a cup of tea ?
powpowpow, I think what Trollmongo said is spot on. Low self esteem or bad childhood can get you draw to shitty characters. It's also a fact that people you will be drawn to the most are mostly people that will draw the attention of many other people even if the person in question is not that attractive. Try starting a relationship with someone you don't care about from the start. This will put you in a position of power. If you find that after some time you still don't love that person you will have learned yet not suffered heart ache. It's never a waste of time.

Oubliette

Unfortunately a majority of mine have been this..my mother describes me as having to be in relationships with broken people....because I have a tendency to want to fix them...something along those lines...I just like making people happy...I suppose it means I focus on someone elses problems instead of my own...kind of an escape mechanism...it just never ends well...lol

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TrollMongo

Hey Oubliette, I Need fixin....

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bizzykizzy

some of the things you guys write is like pure poetry...
i don't know if i'm the only one who sees it....


i personally haven't been in many poor relationships...
the ones i have, i don't really count, one cat tried to hook me on smack... that's rather poor.... fuck him, though, his karma kicked his ass...

and then the other one was this chick, and she was really great and all, but she didn't see it, and then she'd always assume i'd cheat on her, and that like... i was just with her cuz i felt sorry for her... but like... that's not me at all, she didn't seem to see it...
but i know she had a major insuperiority complex...


i know a lot of times kids get with people because they think, well i'm not going to do any better than him or her...



personally, i would rather be single for a long ass time, then find a really great cat, than go to and fro for years, never finding a good kid.

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