excess

I've seen the "hairy" threads but wondered if anyone else here actually has full-blown hirsutism. Or PCOS. I don't know if i have that, and tbh couldn't care less as I don't want children, the hair bothers me most.

My point is, I think it's disgusting. Honestly, if I didn't have it, I would be one of the judgemental people who feel uncomfortable about those with it. But I have it and on top of everything else it adds to everything that ruins my life.

I am also sick of the people who tell me i'm not ugly. They tell me i'm quite pretty etc. Or in worse cases, i've confessed to the hirsutism and they've gone ahead and tried to tell me i look nice anyway. I don't appreciate being mocked, I want honesty. No one is honest with me. Instead of admitting I'm screwed up and shouldn't be allowed to work with the public, i'm told I have "issues." But thats separate.

When i confess to people, usually - no always online, MSN whatever, the first thing they ask is about removal methods. Of course i've bloody tried everything affordable. And i know laser is ineffective and lifelong, for the hirsute anyway. It's all chemical and hormonal imbalances, a bit like depression, and it cant be helped or treated. Normal women can easily get rid of their hair or cover it up. But it's nowhere near the extent of having hair everywhere. It's not blatantly obvious everywhere. Without my glasses, from a distance, some parts of me could pass as normal. But anyone who can see can see i'm a freak. It makes me feel unclean. Hell, it MAKES ME UNCLEAN. I don't even like to classify myself as female.

I would just like people's HONEST thoughts on the matter. What do you think of hirsute women? I want HARSH, CRITICAL AND HONEST VIEWS because i know that's the general opinion. People must think i'm soft but no one is more critical and hurtful than me but they just won't see that every nice word they say rips my wounds open that little bit more.

Please, for god's sake someone here restore a little faith that human's CAN TELL THE TRUTH once in a while?

Meadowseeker

With brutal honesty? I feel really bad for you and what you're going through, and feel like that must be an awful thing to have to deal with.

I didn't think anything negative towards you or your appearance at any point in reading your post.

totallyamazed

I agree with meadowseeker...Honestly I feel REALLY bad for you...I can't imagine having to deal with it everyday...I am comparing it to the hassle of my cholostomy bag that I had for 2 1/2 years and I literally wanted to die...I'm not sure I would be alive today if the final operation hadn't been a success...Not even the love of my children brought me out of that funk so I think I know a little how you feel...I thought that everyone eyes went immediately to the pouch in my clothing and had an accident with it a couple of times...humiliating!!!...I was mortified!!

I do feel really bad for you and if you ever want to talk I'm usually around!

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excess

Totallyamazed - i'm sorry you had to go through that, i'm glad you are through it (assuming so anyway).

Thanks for taking the time to reply both of you.

totallyamazed

Thank you excess...I wish you could find something that makes you feel better too!...Good Luck...(((((((((((comforting hugs))))))))))))))

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Blue Girl

i'm sorry you are going thru it. i was told they think i have PCOS, and i know my hormones are messed up. i don't know how bad your hair growth is. i don't know how to compare mine, so i'll tell you i have dark hairs that grow over the top lip, and patches of chin hair growth, a few hairs on my neck. i shave them. they are too dark and numerous for me to do anything else with. i have allergies, so there are some things i can't use, and i can't afford pricey removal. the hair is quite dark, and i need to shave it about every other day or i have stubble i also have thick dark leg hair (which i would have to shave every day if i wore shorts) & my arm hair is a medium brown and soft, but there's a lot of it. i just ignore the arm hair. i personally hate it all & tell my husband i feel like a man, but he says it doesn't matter to him. and i know it doesn't. it's just frustrating trying to keep it under control.
i don't know if my hair bothers anyone else, and it doesn't really matter to me if it bothers them. i just see it as a physical problem i have no control over.

Blue Girl

p.s. there is some kind of prescription cream called Vaniqa, i think it is new. i may try it, though i'd have to pay for a doc visit & then the prescription. i dunno, maybe it'd be worth it, but we don't have insurance, so who knows. i see a $60. rebate offer online, i don't know how much the price is & how long a package would last., . .

excess

Hi Blue Girl. Thank you for reading and for sharing.
You're lucky to have a husband who doesn't mind your arm hair. I hope to grow to accept it someday. I tried Vaniqa a couple of years ago at college and it took a while but eventually SEEMED to slow the hair growth. i.e i might only have to shave every 2 days rather than every day. But i'm pretty bad and lots have had sucess with it. Hope it works for you. I don't know how much it would cost you. Over here, when i tried it for the second time (soon gave up) after i turned 18, it cost me just over £7 a prescription. I dont know how the US system works. Assuming you are in the US.

I take contraceptive pills for the hair growth. It's slowed it down but apparently there have been doubts about the drug, linked to liver damage and other... stuff, if taken too long. i dont care, i dont want to live anyway. Earlier i was thinking about cancer odds, and hoping i'll be one of the 1 in 3 or whatever it is. Anyway i digress.

Yeah having allergies doesnt help, but Vaniqa could well benefit you especially around your facial areas, which is what its for. Not only will it sort of sooth the area after (may sting too) it slows growth in time. It's cutaneous use though, you have to keep with it. Good luck.

Btw, my hair growth is... well its everywhere except palms of handds/soles of feet. It could always be worse but... Like, legs is quite dark, thighs a little thinner but complete coverage, bum, back, worse on lower back and tummy, thinner but everywhere on torso and chest and breasts, neck SEEMS all right its hard to get a close look. Hands i shave, which doesnt help on top of dermatitis and stress-induced dryness and cracking :/ Win. Arms are the worst to me, because it would be nice to at least wear a tshirt. Anyway its awful. Even upper arms and shouders, but not as thick. Underarms of course, and face, but i pluck and shave that too, everyday or every 2 days, 3 if im lucky. I hate trying to do my eyebrows too, i have to shave the bits around them. so basically, there is no space without some form of hair. Which is why its futile to try waxing or shaving or bleaching anything other than face and hands. My arms are worse cos theyre shaved past the wrist, and also the "scars" as well. Sorry for the detail. Had to rant. Laser is useless for me too. Not wasting the money anyway.

So, as you can see, i will never find someone, i will never NOT be consciously aware or and active in trying to hide it, i will never ANYTHING.

Blue Girl

i don't know about not finding someone. i've seen lots of women with obvious facial hair who are married.
i think the hair bothered me more when i was younger (and i think you are probably pretty young), but i'm past 35 now and it's just been a part of me so long. plus i think my hair bothered me more than anyone else. i realized other people's hair didn't bother me, so why should my hair bother them? it may or may not, but i know not everyone thinks it's disgusting, because i don't. i guess i care enough to try to remove it, but i just try to remove it & forget about it. it doesn't make a big impact on my life, and i hope yours doesn't continue to make you feel so bad. i hope my sharing this has helped you, and thank u for the advice & compassion, too :)

excess

Yeah but facial hair is natural and managable. I'm nearly 19. It bothered me the most growing up in an all girls school, having to endure swimming lessons etc ( i cant swim now) and less so but still so in college, being around guys for the first time. My better friends were guys though, and they were the most amazing people i've ever met. But i've shut them out and will probably never hear anything of them again. Probably for the best. It doesn't bother me to the extent it used to. It is worse for the young, impressionable. I just need to get through each work day a couple of hours at a time. That's all i try to think about. I've got nothing to live for so nothing for it to bother me too much, but as it affect things that i COULD have to live for, that other people do, it will always eat at me but *shrug* i just want some honesty really. It still does have a huge impact on my life. Because im an unstable person. It's like icing on the big messy cake. Its good you don't let yours bother you but, from what you've said, its nowhere near as much as mine lol... I do appreciate you sharing this though.