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Old 08-08-10, 08:02 PM   #1
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I'm quite quiet, too kind and caring for my own good, articulate, I like to read, etc. But the people I come across in my day to day life are totally different to me and they know it. They are loud, sometimes rude to me, brb!!
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I'm quite quiet, too kind and caring for my own good, articulate, I like to read, etc.
I feel the same way at times. I get made fun of a lot at work b/c I am different. But, I have friends that accept me as I am and that is what keeps me from totally isolating myself.

I wonder why it is that people can say things to me that I consider rude, yet, I don't say anything back to them and if I do, I don't know how to take a joke.

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I'm quite quiet, too kind and caring for my own good, articulate, I like to read, etc. But the people I come across in my day to day life are totally different to me and they know it. They are loud, sometimes rude to me, brb!!

Yes, that's me too. Why don't we fit in? Why aren't the good, kind hearted people, the caring, thoughtful people, the ones with good manners, like please and thank-you the NORM. But were not!

Instead we're the ones being abused, picked on, made fun of, put down, walked all over. Is it Nice Guys finish last? I don't feel I fit into this world.
But I feel I'm in the right! About a month ago I was complaining to a guy I worked with, he just gave notice couple of weeks ago and anyway, he told me that I had "to much morals to work in a place like this" . You know what, that's exactly how I've felt for years working here. I'm glad someone else noticed, his advice was for me to quit and find a new place to work. Something else I think about from time to time.
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some people dont like different and i think maybe they are scared by it.....i love to read myself and close friends know this and accept it...
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I'm quite quiet, too kind and caring for my own good, articulate, I like to read, etc. But the people I come across in my day to day life are totally different to me and they know it. They are loud, sometimes rude to me, brb!!
a) because you are a unique human being

b) it would be boring if we were all the same.

Too quiet? Unless you're catatonic, I don't think you can be "too" quiet - especially when you point out that other people who are loud can be rude. If you are saying the other people look down on you, that's due to their inflated self-opinion and doesn't necessarily reflect on you.

The key is not to put everything on the approval of others. Self-worth is important. It can take a long time to accept yourself for who you are, but you must do that if you are going to come to terms with life. Sure, people can change, but usually small things. It's easier to adapt your life to your personality than the other way around. Look for some books on self-improvement and self-esteem.
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I so echo what Juno said.

It's taken me a long time (uh, my whole life up until now) to accept myself for who I am. But now, I find myself surrounded (mostly) by people who appreciate me for being a caring, selfless person. Some people still shut me out because of who I am, but I don't let it get me down anymore, nor do I change myself because of it.

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i would think that you would love the way you are. do you know how hard it is to find people like you??? don't change yourself for those jackasses. if you change anything at all, it should be for yourself.
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I guess we just need to learn to be kind to ourselves and find a place we can go for serenity, whether it be physically or mentally.

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It takes a strong person to be true to themselves and not meekly follow the group or conform to fit in. There's too much of that in society already...be yourself, take pride in how special you are and never change unless it's for your own self improvement.

Manners are a dying art....so be proud of yourself for being one of the very few who is keeping it alive.
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Thanks so much everyone :)
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