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Old 11-07-10, 04:21 PM   #1
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I joined the army in March 2010. I thought it would be hard but I figured I could make it. I just got back from 4.5 months of training. It was very hard and darn near unbearable. i missed my family tons.

Now I have to worry about getting deployed. I was hoping i wouldn't get deployed at all, but some people would swear it on their lives that I WILL get deployed eventually. This breaks my heart more then anything. I am terrified to get deployed, and it makes me very worried and depressed.

There's nothing anyone can do either. It's me against the entire U.S. Government. Alot of people online just call me a coward and treat me like Shit for trying to "collect benefits without doing my job."

4 months was very hard, I dont know how I could survive 1 year away from home...

Also if i do deploy, who's to say i wouldnt deploy again.
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Old 11-07-10, 04:32 PM   #2
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Sorry you feel like this hun.

What made you sign up in the first place?

I know loads of people in the army, and they do like you miss their families so much, but they know what they signed up for.

If you ever need talk I'm just a PM away.
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Yeah, why did you join on the first place? Maybe if you realize that it can get you through this feeling. I'm almost in the military myself (just waiting to ship to basic), and I'm starting to doubt that choice myself, but thinking about why I joined makes that feeling go away for a little while (even though I'm starting to think more and more the military won't work for me anyway).

Also, which branch did you join? They have different deployment rates (and times).
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Deployment depends on where you get stationed and what type of unit they put you in. Some stations deploy more than others, and some units don't deploy from those stations. Unless you went reserve or guard... then, well, it just depends mostly on when the unit you get put into last deployed. The military is supposed to be on 2/1 deployment ratio for active, and 4/1 for reserve and guard, meaning 2 years home, 1 year deployed, or 4 years home, 1 year deployed. So if the unit you get placed in has recently deployed, then you should be ok for a bit. How long is your contract? If it is more than 3 years then yes, you will likely deploy at some point, as long as things stay the way they are. I am hoping for some change to the system soon, since my husband is deployed right now and they are already talking about redeployment. Just hang in there and see how things are when you report to your unit.
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Yeah, why did you join on the first place? Maybe if you realize that it can get you through this feeling. I'm almost in the military myself (just waiting to ship to basic), and I'm starting to doubt that choice myself, but thinking about why I joined makes that feeling go away for a little while (even though I'm starting to think more and more the military won't work for me anyway).

Also, which branch did you join? They have different deployment rates (and times).

FYI, up until you take your final oath you can get out of it. My sister was going into the Army and last minute decided not to go and just didn't show up the day she was supposed to leave for basic. They couldn't do anything about it.
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FYI, up until you take your final oath you can get out of it. My sister was going into the Army and last minute decided not to go and just didn't show up the day she was supposed to leave for basic. They couldn't do anything about it.
Oh, I know that. I don't feel forced or pressured about that at all. If I decide I don't want to do it (or I can't because I end up taking meds or seeing someone), I won't go.


But back to the OP's situation, deployment really depends on what branch you're in, your unit, and what job you have. Some people might deploy a few times in a few years, while others might never deploy.
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Remember OP, chances are, you joined for a reason, and if that reason is strong enough, it should get you through a little anxiety. You got through basic, and that's a good sign. If you couldn't make it, they would have kicked out for failure to adapt.
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