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Old 01-16-11, 10:06 PM   #1
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I am recently unemployed and in a severe depression. The depression is not just about the recent ending of my contract, but before that, I lost a relationship and my house and never fully recovered.

Anyway, now, amid all the horrible talk of the economy, I have to go out and find a job. But I am deeply depressed, and at night I have goals of getting out of bed and encourage myself and even write a note to put next to the bed.

But the next morning, it is like something in me is tieing me to the bed. I wake with very frightening, anxious or dark thoughts.

And I SIMPLY CAN'T GET OUT OF BED. It's like I'm stuck, and the hours tick by.

Do any people with severe depression problems have any tips for how to get out of bed?
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Old 01-16-11, 10:39 PM   #2
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I have a hard time too. Often I spend more than half the day in bed. The moment I wake up, I seem to remember all the embarrassing events of the past day and not want to get up. And later I'd want to take a nap, because I'm nervous and want to retreat into a shell. I've been unemployed too for a long time.

I usually get up because I'm hungry or want to check out TTL or something. I think you kind of have to force it. Try to think of something constructive to do while you're in bed, like tell yourself to get up and check TTL for a minute.
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Old 01-16-11, 11:01 PM   #3
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do you think you are experiencing depression or shell shock?

The two often feel the same.

Shell shock is when everything gets ripped out from under you and you totally lose your ability to cope with life. Every road seems like it leads to just another dark street.

We tend to go through life depending on certain things. But when we suddenly lose them, the things we depended on are gone, leaving us totally disorientated and confused.

unfortunately there's no real fix for this. It just takes time to regain your balance.

Support groups are good. Faith in something is good. Believing that somehow someway it will work out in the end, is good.

I've been in your situation. In fact I'm currently in your situation. What gets me through is the belief that there is a plan and that in time it will reveal itself.

While being unemployed can really really suck. Working isn't all that fun either... so I try to enjoy the time off... or at the very least not convince myself that its so horrible. The only thing horrible about it is the unkonwn of when I'll get back on track... which while frustrating, is no worse a stress than some of the crappy jobs ive had to do.
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Old 01-17-11, 12:48 AM   #4
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Laying down not moving starts to hurt if I do it for too long.

It's tough to find things to do sometimes, but I try to get up every day, even if only to save myself more physical pain in addition to the emotional. That's basically my "last resort" reason to get up for when I can't think of anything better.
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Old 01-17-11, 02:38 AM   #5
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Seriously zoela, if you are that depressed nothing external is really going to motivate you to get out of bed yourself.

This is what my friend did ( I laughed, but it works), she had started setting an alarm clock in the kitchen so when her son came home he switched it off. If he wasn't home by the time he was supposed to (so the clock is set for midnight) the alarm would go off and she would know he was not home.

Well, she has used the same trick on herself. She set the alarm for a reasonable time and leaves it in the kitchen. It is really loud and really annoying and she has to get out of bed to turn it off. She tells me that 9 times out of 10 that by the time she has walked into the kitchen and turned it off she doesn't feel the same urge to still be in bed.

I couldn't use this trick because it would annoy the hell out of everyone else. But maybe you can use it.
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Old 01-17-11, 03:12 AM   #6
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A few reasons. My cat usually scratches my bed informing me of her empty food bowl. My refrigerator is in the other room and I have some every day responsibilities to take care of. If not those, I just get up to get up. Recently it's been hard getting out of bed but I've been in this situation long enough to where I'm sick of just sitting or laying in bed. I'm not going to lay there and rot slowly
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Old 01-17-11, 04:32 AM   #7
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I find I am able to get up but I just then move on to the sofa. I can spend hours on that sofa. I've even spent nights on it. Just not moving. I might in the evening turn the lights on then shut the curtains but that's only because the lights from the passing traffic annoys me. I also might get up and wander but more often than not I forget why or just had no reason in the first place. I bought some painting to do. And I play on my wii. Also I like to check on here. Little things like that keep me active. Enough not to tire me to much but to make me feel I've done something today :)
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I always found that going to bed really early makes it easy to wake up in the morning. I mean I used to goto bed at sometimes 8 or 9 and I would never sleep past 10 am the next day no matter what. I would make myself goto the gym every morning and feel good after. Since I only work 2 days a week now and no longer have an actual life or any friends to share it with I just don't give a shit when I wake up anymore.. but if you have a reason to wake up id suggest going to bed early it will help.
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I don't think that I have severe depression, but what gets me out of bed in the morning is I am counted on to do my job. I hate the idea of leaving guys hanging because I didn't show up.
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Old 01-18-11, 02:59 AM   #10
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Wow, thank you all for responding. I didn't think many, or anyone would respond as it feels so strange to have such a problem. It is helpful to know I am not alone.

Hope lives on--I have thought of what you said about shell shock vs depression. they sort of seem to run together, but I think you are right to point out that I could have shell shock. In that case I could maybe expect it to get better again.

I thank all of you for your advice.
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